Is it enough?

[ThereIsTooMuchConfusion]

Me and my DH have had sex once this year.
I love him he loves me, but not the kinda love you read about in books.
I work permanent nights.
He works full time mon-fri 0700- 18:00.
So we are kinda passing ships. I don’t feel the urge to have sex but I also miss being desired. Miss intamacy. I feel we have lost something but also feel like he is my best friend also. We have 2 amazing kids and I think we parent well together. Sometimes he irritates the crap out of me and I’m sure I do him but I feel he is still my person.

But something feels like it’s lost forever. And really want opinions is this kinda relationship sustainable?

We have had multiple conversations about the lack of sex and I can’t be bothered to have it anymore I feel rejected and hurt most of the time about the sec thing but also sensitive to the fact I don’t think he men’s to hurt me I think there are underlying issues why he has lost his libido.

Any advice opinions appreciated, many thanks

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My first though was that you both change jobs so that you're actually spending time with each other.

Does your husband want to change things or do you think he's given up?

What are the underlying issues with your husband?

This> I feel he is still my person is such a lovely sentiment Op. You obviously care a great deal about your DH.
I can't offer much advice but it sounds like there is love between you. I bet he feels as sad about the lack of sex as you do. Counselling? But how would you fit the sessions in?
Like Vitalogy says, maybe a change in your work/life balance is necessary to make any positive change in your relationship.