DH come home from business trip and doesn't engage

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DH has been away, not for long, just a couple of nights. Got back late last night, and had a day to himself at home today

I got home at 5 from work, haven't seen him for a while or caught up him other than a couple of brief phone calls while he was away

He didn't really make any effort to speak to me, just read his book when he could (amid looking after then kids) and then the papers

I just felt a bit sad that he wasn't interested in what I'd been up or how I was, despite not being tired or anything

Am I being sensitive? He is one that is always on his phone reading the news / social media etc and I find it quite unengaging

He is probably very tired and just needs to unwind. You only need to be worried if it goes on for a long time but, so far, it hasn't.

Another day tomorrow.

Tired? He was away for a short while anrs had the day to himself....

I think you must be clear with him about what you expect from jont, shared, equal communication.

Some really good couples counselling could be invaluable.

I think you’re being sensitive. I agree with Rebecca

You're gut feelings are true. He's being an arse. I bet you were feel8nf dead excited to see him but he was a bit meh? I wish I'd listened to my head 30 years ago when I was getting hit with this shit x

Tired? He had the whole day to himself to unwind and sleep if he needed to!

I would be quite upset if my partner went away for a few days and didn't want to speak to me when they got back. Surely you're supposed to miss each other and want to catch up on how you've been?

Don't settle for this OP. I had an ex who never asked about my day or life and it was really disheartening. We split up for unrelated reasons but my current partner always asks about my day and asks how I slept and such-like. Sometimes after a hard day I don't want to talk but I always appreciate him asking, and he's quite understanding if I just want to flop in silence but I don't ignore him completely!

If he is too tired, then why the heck doesn't he actually communicate that? Just as you might if you needed to withdraw a bit for a headache or whatever.

OP: you are not being oversensitive. To come back and basically ignore someone, without providing any explanation, is not pleasant, and it's not even polite.

Is he always uncommunicative, or is this something specific to return from this trip only? Either way, I think you need to talk to him, but what needs to be said would depend on extent of the issue

DH travels for work a lot. I have the harder job with two under 5s and a out the home job to manage in his regular absence. He knows this and even if he is tired he makes the effort to chat, spend a little bit of time with the dc and talk to me about what's been going on with both of us. He will then usually shower and maybe sleep an hour if the travel has been long.

I would say he's prob just being insensitive but remind him you've been holding the fort in his absence and it would be nice to have a chat.