I have been married a few years and generally we get on.
DSS is a teenager and has been making things difficult lately.
I have a short fuse so if I'm wound up I'll shout and then I loose any credibility. I am being blamed for the tension in the house. DH and DSS stick together and I am the one in the wrong all the time.
Some of my issues below are really petty but I just need to get them down.
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DH wouldn't move up on the sofa twice when I come in so that I can sit down. I've been suffering with sickness and illness for a few days now and he knows this. I needed to sit down and he wouldn't move.
I lose my rag and go upstairs. Apparently I'm the bad one and 'he's not the only person who can see it' meaning DSS
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DSS won't do a thing he is told and shows me so much disrespect. DH excuses it and says its just because he is a teen. In front of him.
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DH calls me lazy and makes fat jibes at me. Knowing I've just been diagnosed with an eating disorder and have crippling depression. He refused to walk any slower when I went for a walk with him. He said I shouldn't go with him if I can't keep up. I have fatigue but wanted to try and get some fresh air.
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DH spends a lot of time playing games with DSS so I spend most of my weekends alone. DSS won't go out anywhere so it means we just end up staying in.
Writing this is so upsetting. We do have some good times but they are becoming rarer.
How can we learn to work together and not snap anf argue at each other?