Narcissistic Rage (I think)

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Thinking back on my (19 years) with my ex partner and the numerous tantrums he had that were ridiculously out of proportion to the event, I wonder if they were actually narcissistic rages . Like the time (which one shall I pick...) where he screamed abuse at me for half an hour because I wouldn't drive him to the station because it was raining. It was 5 in the morning and I wasn't even awake when he asked! Anyone got any stories of when they have been subjected to narcissistic rage? I am keen to hear whether my experiences match others as a way of gaining insight I suppose. Caveated of course with my heartfelt sympathies that you have also been the target of an irrational madman (or woman).

My nark mother once had a six hour tantrum because I had stacked her cereal bowl in the 'wrong' place in the dishwasher and she couldn't immediately see it

My ex went on a week long fuming rage against my sil whilst on a holiday. My sil asked for a glass of “the” cava and not “her” cava.

My sil’s crime was not acknowledging that my ex had bought it when she asked. My ex from that point hated her like the worst person on Earth. Didn’t care that she was causing a huge family rift over such a small thing.

They’re a f**king scary bunch of soulless freaks her entire family I now realise.

My ex raged when I hid the contents of a box of Maltesers around our house as a fun game (we were young and a year into our relationship). My ex couldn’t find the last chocolate and raged! Shouting at me “TELL ME WHERE IT IS”, “THIS ISNT FUNNY ANYMORE!”

I can remember standing there In the kitchen thinking “You’re having a tantrum over a Malteser?!?”

I could have understood if it was my last rolo

I refused to drive him to the library in snow. A foot of the stuff. The library was fucking closed anyway, that one went on for a good few days.
There was the time when we'd not left a teaspoon out of the dishwasher and we knew it hurt him to bend down...
There was the time when dd teased him about some bread being eaten and he threw the loaf at her...
How about the time he was arrested and cautioned for dv. I traumatised him because he'd had to spend the night in a cell with no dignity etc.

So many, I have a narcissistic mother!
She once didn’t speak to me for 5 months ( it was great actually) because I didn’t help cut her food up at a family wedding, she has arthritis but is not that disabled she can’t do it for herself. She has to be centre of attention all of the time and obviously a wedding that wasn’t her own she wasn’t!

There are two bridges that you can take to get to the other side of our city.

She was driving and said ‘how do you get to x bridge?’ I told her.

Cue her screaming at me in the car because I should have known that she wanted to go over y bridge and how horrible I was for giving her the wrong directions. Despite directing her to where she said she wanted to go.

Only time I have ever wanted to open the car door and throw myself under the bus behind so I could escape her rage. It was awful.

Thanks for sharing. You are right Lonelycrab - souless freaks. Another one from me - the time a frozen breaded fish fell out of the freezer onto his bare foot. That was a wonder to behold. Friends thought it was hilarious: it really wasn't

Although I cant see the connection between narcissistic injury and something falling on your foot but he went absolutely batshit.

Might put me as it was the story that made a few of my friends realise I needed to split up with my ex but he screamed at me and ranted for about two hours because...I cut the carrots up the ‘wrong’ way. He was a prick and that wasn’t what made me dump him unfortunately- I ended up cutting some more carrots the ‘right’ way (who the fuck is so invested in the shape of their chopped carrot pieces- it was cubes vs discs or something like that). Man, I am so glad every time I remember him and that time that he is an ex!

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I can name lots of these as DP's ex is a weapons-grade narc.

Evidently her youngest son parked his car in the wrong place a couple of weeks ago and she screamed at him for about two hours.

Another one was when ex's DM and DD were out for a coffee and they ran into my DP. He didn't engage them in conversation as he knew how his ex would behave if it got back to her. Nevertheless, ex's DM waved at him and when she heard about it, she collared DM and DD and raged at them for three or four hours about it, screaming, crying and throwing things. Wish I'd got a video of it, to be honest