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Abuse, right?

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ReallyIsThatSo · 19/07/2018 18:35

Please help me out here.

I know in my head this is wrong - but apparently my fault.

‘She’s not my fucking ex, you total bitch, you fucking bitch - how dare you suggest such a thing’

Throws towels and other stuff at me, tells me he wants to punch me in the face.

This is 11:30pm, he’s in my home. 14 yo DS is asleep in his room.

Loses phone, empties my bedroom before saying he’s leaving.

He was picking at me for asking whether a FB female was an ex, because he keeps referring to her. She’s also really hot and a mutual friend of friends.

He started telling me I was obsessed with his ex’s. I’m not, I just found it weird that he was going on about her hair - because mine needs doing.

I snapped back that it wouldn’t be unusual because I had to put up with one of his ex’s - I didn’t know they’d had any sexual connection because he denied it for 18 months but I knew she was too familiar after her Sunday morning texts and knack of calling every time we were together. It came out she’d been the cause of his 7 year relationship breaking down because he was unfaithful with her. She took 6 months after that to subside. She was a nightmare - oh and he’d spent the weekend visiting her as I believed she was a friend.

I’m sat here waiting to get my keys back. I just need to know that I didn’t deserve that.

These outbursts and dramas are frequent and I’ve been ending it bi-weekly and then getting the lovely stuff and lured back in.

I know he’s abusive. Please, just hand hold and tell me that’s abuse...

OP posts:
Falulah · 19/07/2018 20:57

Yes that is verbal abuse. Flowers Sounds a very unhealthy relationship to be in. Hugs and hope you manage to end relationship safely & don't get pulled back in by excuses or pleas for another chance once you say you've had enough. Be a cold grey rock, practical, emotionless. State you boundaries and stick to them. And go into therapy yourself to heal and get perspective on what you've been in xxx

ReallyIsThatSo · 19/07/2018 21:20

Thank you Falulah. Sadly that’s not his worst moment.

I appreciate your advice.

I got my keys in a public place.

I know I’m done. Xxx

OP posts:
SandyY2K · 19/07/2018 21:46

End it. He's abusive and horrible. Women do men like this a favour by being with them.

Let him bugger off...so your son doesn't have to see this sorry excuse for a man anymore.

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