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What is up with him

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Mumoftwokiddy · 19/07/2018 15:35

Hi all,
We have a 7 week old baby and for maybe the last 2/3 weeks my boyfriend seems to be really moody. Obsessed with how long our daughter is her car seat for. He'd prefer me to just stay at home all day so she's not out and about as he tells me it's not good for her. I guess I should mention it's his first and my second child.
It's starting to really get me down and making me feel abit of a shit parent. I've tried talking to him about how he's making me feel but he just says it's in my own head. Any suggestions?

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AgathaRaisonDetra · 19/07/2018 15:37

How long is she in her car seat for? He has a point as prolonged use can curse curvature of the spine. The baby needs to be flat.

GrumpyOldBlonde · 19/07/2018 15:38

Tell him to stop being so silly is my suggestion. You have another child so have some experience here. I assume you asked him how it is not good for her to be out and about? What did he respond

Is he hands-on and helpful with her? What's with the car seat thing?

Readyfortheschoolhols · 19/07/2018 15:40

Ask u your hv for some safety leaflets you can go through together. Maybe he is feeling like a rubbish first timer when you have already done it so to speak.
And car seat use does have guidelines!

TroubledLichen · 19/07/2018 15:48

I think it’s normal for first timers to worry more than second time parents and there are guidelines about newborns in car seats. Yes you have more experience than him but that doesn’t necessarily mean his concerns aren’t valid. How long is she in her seat for when you go out?

adviceonthepox · 19/07/2018 16:21

When I had my first child it was never mentioned about how long they should be in a car seat for just to take regular breaks on a long journey. 20 years later when I had my 3rd I was told 40 mins max with at least 20 mins out before going back in and to never let them sleep in a car seat. I'm sure there are proper guidelines online maybe find those and speak to you OH about what is recommended.

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Mumoftwokiddy · 19/07/2018 16:48

Literally 20mins a day on the school run. She's in her carry cot otherwise.

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Mumoftwokiddy · 19/07/2018 16:49

Yes he is Very hands on... But just worries about accidents, sun, flies etc... Starting to get to me abit ASI like going for walks etc with her in her pram...

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Mumoftwokiddy · 19/07/2018 17:03

She's only in her car seat when necessary.. so when I'm driving basically and that's a 20min journey in the morning to my daughter's school and again at 3:30

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RandomMess · 19/07/2018 17:25

He's being a knob and potentially could become increasingly controlling so you are stuck home all day every day...

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