He’s intimidated by her beauty

[Maybellissimo]

Posting for a friend. My best friend is stunning, mid forties lovely person to boot. Her dh passed away last year and she is venturing into the world of OLD. Anyway she has been seening this guy for a few weeks, they seemed to be getting on really well, he’s older than her (early 60’s) and divorced. They have had sex a couple of times and she’s really positive about the blossoming relationship.

Last week she was getting ready to go out and he texted her to ask where she was going and to send him a picture of the dress she was wearing. She texted back do you want to see it on or off and he replied ‘on you idiot’ he was obvs joking but I found that comment a bit rude. So she sent him the picture and she’s heard nothing from him since. He’s not answering her calls or texts. The dress was a sexy red number she looked absolutely stunning so the only reason I can think of is that he’s intimidated by how attractive she is. She’s so upset. Any ideas?

Maybe he wanted to see her with it off?

Sounds like jealous and controlling to me but "intimidated by her beauty" sounds alot nicer and more forgiving I'd say she should see this as a big warning sign and run for the hills

Who could possibly know? This happens a lot with online dating, people suddenly disappearing for no obvious reason. I don’t think you can analyse it based on that and I wouldn’t personally bother.

Yes I agree Trinity. I think she’s dodged a bullet here tbh

And it happens to people of all shapes and sizes so might have nothing to do with her appearance at all.

But I can’t see any other reason. They talked/texted every day he was so into here, she sends him the picture and poof, he disappears

Intimidated by her beauty? I don’t see and grounds for that assumption based on what you said. Maybe he got a better offer? Maybe he moved to Switzerland? Maybe he lost his phone? Who knows?

They talked/texted every day he was so into here, she sends him the picture and poof, he disappears

But he’s seen her both dressed up and naked before. What’s do special about the dress?

Maybe he was so overwhelmed by her beauty he keeled over with a heart attack.

Maybe in it she looked really like some old flame of his and that freaked him out.

I don’t know I think it was the fact that she was going out without him looking like that

Maybe the message was from his wife wanting to see who he was playing away with?

It might have happened if she hadn’t sent a picture then she would be thinking it was because she hadn’t sent a picture .

Bullet well dodged I'd say.
Tell her to get back out there and enjoy herself.
No pressure.
Nothing too serious. Just enjoy it!

I don’t think it’s anything to do with the picture itself either but it has probably really freaked her out that he’s chosen to wander off right after she sent it. Maybe he’s trying to play games, makes her a bit insecure or whatever.

I think Emma765 could be right!

Or he's died...

I think Emma may be right too, although may not be wife but another woman, it’s a very strange thing to request! And it’s the kind of thing I might have done to be honest if I was snooping

Impossible to say why he's stopped contact but I see no reason to think it's because he's intimated by her beauty.

Maybe he finds her boring, maybe he's with someone else now, maybe he thought the dress and comment from her was trashy... Who knows?

Bottom line he's not in touch and unless he decides to let her know why she will just have to accept not knowing.

I think Emma has it.

Your poor friend. Online dating looks to be not for the faint of heart.

Maybe he thought, whats does a stunning woman 20 years younger than me see in me? If so She should rum for he hills as these types end up as controlling twats

Or he is married as suggested above.