My mental health over 18year old son.

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Son has finished college ..low grades prefer drugs to anything postive. I am a single mom ..Been stolen from, lied to and threatened by his dealer.. Loco purse in car now and sleep with keys under my pillow.. It's not a life i want.

Son will not look at warehouse jobs and wants to play football team are interested but pay is irregular.He is argumentative,ride and disrespectful..

Dad gives him money not time or love.. I got so agency involved but son refused help..
Helped with homeless shelter so now he is 18 it's an option.. Looking at getting police or a bouncer type bloke to help me throw son out onto street .. If he doesn't go ..I can see myself having a breakdown or doing something stupid . I dread the next drama.

Can you ask police for advice

How awful for you. Look after yourself and take care
Thinking of you and wishing you all the best in the situation

So sorry op

As you say, it's hell. Talk to your GP who will know of community support specifically for this type of situation. I know I spoke to an organisation back in the day (no idea what they were called, sorry) and they were helpful.

Your boy is not worth doing something stupid over. Really, he is not. Please contact your GP and go from there.

Really sorry it's so hard for you at the moment

Drugs change a person, and become their main focus in life.

With all due respect, seeing the gp about your sons problems will not help, you can lead a horse to water etc etc.

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but you need to kick him out and let him get to a point where he wants to get help. It is mental torture when you love someone but you cannot help them, they need to do it themselves.

Do you know what drugs he is taking OP? The reason I ask is that some drug addictions are easier to kick than others.

You cannot live like this, I've been through it, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone else. It's a living nightmare, kick him out by whatever means, and then get some help for yourself. I feel your pain 😔

It's weed.He dealing too .. He has thrown a good life away and a chance to go to America for football and stays in bed till 12. How's to bed at2 am. Beg a favors of his mates. It's awful i don't want to spend any time in my lovely home i caught so hard to keep. His dad has it so easy no stress,stealing or mess...

Sorry for the delay OP, it sounds like he is caught in a trap right now, of smoking weed and dealing it. Fast money but a dangerous way of life.

Firstly don't panic, I know this situation wears you down, it's like being on high alert at all time, you can't sleep, eat and completely overwhelmed with life.

You will not cope whilst you are like this, can I suggest you see your gp, you need to be able to sleep that way you can think clearer.

When you are strong enough the riot act has to be read he has to clean up or ship out. Heartbreaking as it is, a tough love approach has to be taken, or this will only get worse, it starts with dealing weed and moves on to other drugs of choice ending up with the dealer having a full arsenal of class A drugs being touted around.

But you need right now is help with your own mental health, anxiety and feeling really down about the situation. Please book that appointment with the doctor. Don't be embarrassed, I couldn't cope and to be honest when I eventually saw my GP I was on the edge of a breakdown, it was a relief to offload what was happening. I slept 14 hours that night and woke up with a clear head and on a mission.

Please let us know how your getting on, I know it's a very lonely place where you are right now, I was there to.