Positive stories of post-divorce dating pls

[Prezel1979]

So, ExH got a young gf and a Harley and moved out a year and a half ago. Have divorced him, everything sorted money house arrangements for the children etc. We get on pretty well considering.

However - how ON EARTH does one find the time for a new relationship? Between work and the children I can’t see myself finding anyone for like the next decade.

Am quite happy on my own and I don’t think it’d be great for the children to put someone else in the mix now anyway. But I don’t fancy the idea of being single forever either.

If anyone would like to tell me their great stories of contented singledom after divorce and then finding true love at 50 that’d be really nice to read

It's really hard work I will be honest but you have to give it a try and get on some dating sites z

Hello! Sounds like you have come through so much!

I think you need to work on carving some time out for yourself to socialise and grow your friendship base, that way if someone comes along you already have some time to yourself built into your life to try and nurture a relationship.

After my ex left I met someone I already knew on tinder. I didn't know his marriage had also broken down until I saw him there.
We fell quite hard quite quickly and just seeing him every other weekend when my son was away wasn't enough for us so he used to come to my house for dinner "dates" after my son was in bed. But my son was only 3 and had no awareness. If he was older that probably would not have been an option. After almost a year together I started to integrate him into my sons life which makes things easier all round!

Good luck

Hi I'm in a similar position. 50 next year, been on my own 2 years. How old are your kids?

I am very lucky in my friends, that’s one reason why no time for relationship good advice about carving out time in advance though, thank you!

Kids are under ten. I’m in my late thirties. Maybe tinder, there’s a thought...

I'm remarried after divorce. Met my DH at a joint hobby we do.

You have to make space if you want someone in your life. Not just physical space, but psychological space too. Do you still make your bed up for two? You might meet someone through your friends and then they could slot in easily.

I joined PoF one lonely evening just to find men to talk to and possibly meet someone. I found lots of men who would talk the talk and give me flattering compliments and found that this was a real ego boost.

After a couple of months I really clicked with one man and eventually we met up. Two and a half years later we're still together!

How we've made it work is that he was never looking for a serious relationship and is happy to fit our dates in whenever I'm free of mum duties, which works for both of us. We're definitely exclusive though! Maybe we'll live together one day but while I'm busy being a mum he knows that's my priority so it works much better if we have separate lives. Means I look forward to seeing him and don't have to put up with his dirty socks on the floor (not that he does this!)

I think it's important to set expectations from the start. If a man is looking for a lady to wrap her world around him then that's not what they're likely to get from a single mum.

Ah I misread your post, I thought you were 50!

Plenty of time to meet someone. I wouldn't leave it until you're 50 though. From my experience, you become more and more invisible beyond 45.

I don’t think that’s necessarily true about invisibility over 45, just different types of guys and maybe less of them, some guys really do want someone in life who is not tied down with children ,