Texting in early dating - what is "normal"?

[AnnaPannocchia]

Sorry, I know this has been discussed before, but it is an evergreen topic of conversation in my opinion

I have been seeing New Guy for a bit over a month, went on 5/6 dates so far. All is lovely for the moment. We both have very demanding careers.

We text more or less daily, sometimes every other day, but usually very short exchanges with long gaps between replies (for example he texts me late in the evening, I reply in the morning and he re-replies in the evening and so on). None of us texts when we are at work.

It has been consistently like this since the beginning, and it is almost like a never ending conversation filled with little jokes, nice words and goodnights/good mornings. He never not replied to a message from me, and the other way around. On average we get back to each other within 6-12 hours.

However, I wonder if our communication should start getting more frequent and detailed as we are getting to know each other a bit more? Can't say I am unhappy with how things are, I am just wondering what is the norm, if there is one!

What amount of texting would you expect during the early stages of dating?

Many thanks!

Well it depends on how much you want.

I’d sometimes prefer a real time reply once in a while rather than passing ships messages. Do you speak on the phone ? Dh did his best wooing in telephone convos.

I guess it depends on the couple! I know people who text like you are doing and the relationship has gone well. Me and my fiancé have texted loads since the first day. It sounds ok to me, you are both replying to each other and the texts sound friendly! It can be difficult to gauge things in the beginning I think!

There is no norm. It total depends on what you are happy with.

Me and Dp (together properly for 3 months) are texting a lot at the moment. He is at work but can text. I am off work at the moment.

When I go back it will reduce. Because I can't text at work.

We have had days wher3 we have literally sent 5 texts and some where it's been closee to 100.

If he is at work I rarely text first. Except when I know he is on lunch break or it's important. We are both happy with this so, it doesn't matter what's normal to others. This is the norm for us.

It can be difficult to gauge things in the beginning I think!

Fantasmagoria it really bloody is!!

If that's enough for both of you then it's fine. But if it feels like there's not much communication, things could fizzle out and end. If you feel you need to up the communication, you should contact him more and see how he responds.

Also for me personally, when I was dating I always found if things were going well and heading in the right direction, then I wasn't questioning things. When a guy likes you, he will make it known and things like texting you won't worry about.

I’m at a similar stage to you, on date 6 or 7. We text everyday, sometimes lots of texting and other times not so much. I start to worry if he doesn’t answer my texts (that’s just me being insecure). For me it’s still early days and I don’t know if he’s going to suddenly vanish like others have. Although I enjoy the early stages of dating and a new relationship I can find it a bit stressful too, not knowing what’s normal and what’s not.

Depends on the couple really.
The guy I'm seeing we text from first thing in the morning to last thing at night and we've done that from day one and it's been just over 7 weeks now :)

If you think you need to up it then go for it

I wouldn’t worry about it and just let things develop naturally in that sense. As time goes on you will probably find your conversations naturally include things that you wouldn’t mention as much now