I think my boyfriend has left me....

[Malibucyprus]

Been together 7 years this Sunday coming. We had a disagreement (not shouting or screaming) at 5.30 this evening. (He isn’t my DC’s Dad, but has been in their lives since they were 4&6)
I’d come up with an idea to get the DC involved in household chores, pick a ‘raffle ticket’ with one job to be done every night after school (nagging them to help doesn’t work) and as per usual he poo pooed the idea, “what’s wrong with just telling them” “why can’t they do these things before school” “I think it’s a stupid idea” etc etc... so I called him Mr Negative, never has a good word to say about anyone, always picking faults, and he started slamming and banging around the kitchen, told him to wrap up as the kids will be uncomfortable, to which he replied “well your attitude makes me slam” so I told him to fuck off then, and he did precisely that! Not heard a peep since, no idea where he is or if he’s coming back.

There is a huge backstory to this, I’m constantly stuck in the middle of him and my DD’s, all he ever does is critiques them! And I’ve had enough.

I don’t know why I’m posting this here, I’m more of a lurker but I don’t want to worry my family and friends with this.

But why would you want him back? He sounds like he's sucking all the life out of your family.

Well if all ever does is critique your daughters I think it was a long time over due. Children need positive role models from both genders . I’d change the locks and have a glass of wine 🍷 x

Good riddance to him

The question is why did you not leave him, since he is awful to your children?

Why would you want to be with someone who isn’t nice to your children?

Do you live together?

I'd say your daughters are just absolutely delighted. He sounds awful.

Sounds like he's done right by you. I'm really confused as to why you had a man in the house for years on end when he was critical of your dds though you've taught them some shit lessons by not kicking him out years ago

I was in this situation. It got worse. Don't have him back. Luckily mine only lived with us for 1.5 of the seven years we were together but him calling ds2 'evil' was the clincher so I chucked him out. My children know that abuse is not ok. They understand it's important to have boundaries. They understand it's ok to stand up for yourself if someone does not respect those boundaries. They saw I protected them and put them first because I recognised that no child should have to put up with abuse and I did something about it. It ramped up slowly over time and it's easy to try to forgive and forget. But it only gets worse.

Don't take him back.

Probably best he left before your daughters decide you chose a man who's horrible to them over them and stopped talking to you. Don't take him back if he returns, which he probably will.