Whiny lazy husband

[Peonylass]

I have been with my 2nd husband for 16 years. His idea of fun involves long 3 hour baths, napping, lie ins and tv/internet marathons.

He has no sense of humour, he's untidy, he eats all the time, noisily, and he whines, he actually whines at the kids and at me, like a tired 4 year old.

He also doesn't do bills or plans so I have to do everything. I work longer hours than he does and have been the main earner for years. He had depression and downsized his job after being out of work for quite a while.

The kids are both autistic (they are adopted after my sister died, so no relation to my DH

We tried date night but I had to do everything, book the restaurant, sort babysitter, pay the bill and it just seemed to be the same old same old

We are staying together for the kids and I can't afford a divorce. Only another 10 years to go. Can I survive?

Aspergers husbands thread might be relevant/helpful to you OP

Counselling isn't about getting a person to change their behaviour. It's for you to make a decision how you want to react to it.

He was aware how his behaviour makes you feel.

You need to take responsibility to make necessary changes.

Genuine question: Does he snore?

I’d definitely at least opt out of the marriage if I were you. Stop doing things for him. Start doing things that you enjoy doing, for yourself. If you went out with girlfriends at weekend would he have the kids?

Sounds like hes on the spectrum.