Friends and controlling relationships

[WhiteRabbit79]

I've read lots of threads on here about controlling partners but I'm just wondering if anybody on here has experienced witnessing it from the perspective of somebody who can see major red flags in their friends relationship with their partner?

I had a friend who I suspect was in a controlling relationship. Note the past tense. We were close, but once she got married she kept giving excuses about not being able to meet (not just me but other friends too). When she met with us she would get a few calls and texts from her partner. Or she would be quite anxious to go at a certain time and not be late. Eventually she stopped contacting me and our mutual friends and would always say she was busy. A couple of times her partner answered her phone too and was kind of impolite.

I've seen it in friends. It's very hard to bring up without driving a wedge between you and the friend, which is exactly what people in controlling relationships don't need

@notbeforecoffee that's kind of where I'm at now. I don't want to bring it up because I don't want her to get offended and shut herself off even more

Ive a friend I’m not super close to and I’m uncomfortable with the posts her partner puts up on fb about her - they often mock her, or are deliberately unflattering photos with comments like ‘lucky I love you’ or somesuch. It’s really icky

One of my best friends is in a controlling relationship and I hardly see her as a result. I don't get on with her dh but we pretend to tolerate each other. They have fabulous kids and she is stuck. She has never confided but apologises to him constantly. Single parents the kids. He works away mostly which is why I think she copes. He bought her a personal trainer recently and thus transformed her life. She was so thankful all over facebook. I will be here for her when she has reached her no return .