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Mobile phone numbers & social media

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Iwouldmarrythebeast · 17/07/2018 00:55

I’ve met someone on Tinder and moved across to What’s App. We’ve been talking for nearly 6 weeks now and we were due to meet up but I wasn’t able to make it. However I can’t find any link to any social media account with his number - Facebook, Instagram, SC or LinkedIn. Is there anyway I can validate him with just his number? It almost feels like he doesn’t exist

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tabularasa35 · 17/07/2018 03:20

That is very sensible. I always try to find the person's online presence as well. Things I try:

  • Google phone number/email address
  • With a name and job title you can try your luck on linkedin
  • Reverse search the images from his profile

If you have an area, name, job (I assume so after 6 weeks, try to put all that info together).

RedPill · 17/07/2018 03:50

Just remember that not everyone is on social media and it doesn't always mean they are hiding something

Chippyway · 17/07/2018 04:47

I don’t use my number for anything to do with social media. For this very reason Grin

I understand why you want to check, I’d be doing the same. But I think you just need to meet. Sometimes longing it out is the worst thing you can do when you’ve not met each other. Just meet him and trust your instincts

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Iwouldmarrythebeast · 17/07/2018 07:51

I don’t know his surname but I know the village (small) he lives in and what he does for a job. I would just feel happier if I could find some tiny online presence!

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FuckItPassMeTheWine · 17/07/2018 11:47

Ask for his surname ! And make sure you tell a friend his full name and his mobile number , where you are going with him and what time you will be home.

Needless to say don’t put yourself in any vulnerable situations whilst just getting to know each other , this includes getting in his car alone. Safety first , always x

NotTheFordType · 17/07/2018 12:22

If he's using Tinder then he has a facebook account (you still have to have a FB account to use Tinder, right? I haven't used it in ages)

I'd suspect he's using a burner phone which either indicates he's had problems with dating before and someone has got a bit stalky, or he's married.

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Iwouldmarrythebeast · 17/07/2018 12:34

I don’t think you need Facebook for Tinder now. He’s definitely single, he rings me most evenings and texts me in the morning. I’m just intrigued. I suspect he’s using a burner phone - he hides his time stamp on what’s app but the 2 grey ticks can stay grey for hours sometimes

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AnaViaSalamanca · 17/07/2018 13:10

Hmm you are very suspicious! Why is that? I also hide my read and last seen on whatsapp, and don't link my number to social media. DP doesn't have any social media account, not even linkedin!

What sort of info are you trying to dig up on this person? I am sure once you meet you can ask him? If after 6 weeks you are still not convinced he is a real person why do you continue?

hellsbellsmelons · 17/07/2018 13:14

I make an absolute point of not having my phone number on any of my social media.
But it is how I look up people before I meet them.

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Iwouldmarrythebeast · 17/07/2018 14:56

I am suspicious but also intrigued at the same time! Probably not a good combination

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Itwasntmehonest · 17/07/2018 17:00

Have you got Facebook Messenger? I find that if I add a number to my phone's contacts, and I'm not already connected with that contact on Messenger, then when I go into 'people' on my messenger app, that they appear (obviously only if they're also on FB Messenger). You may be able to find him that way perhaps?

pisces7268 · 17/07/2018 19:37

He might have a new phone and not updated details, but yes I'd want to see someone's fb before meeting. You can find out so much more about their life and if they are a real person or it.
Just tel him to add you on Facebook or Instagram and if he says no it's about dodgy x

AnaViaSalamanca · 17/07/2018 20:23

It's amazing how people's views are different! If I were to meet someone and they asked to be added to my fb or insta it would be goodbye. Then again I never dated in the social media world so might not know.

OP I still suggest you ask your questions directly and get to know the man in person, rather than investing so much headspace in someone you haven't even met. If he is a genuine person he might get scared away!

pisces7268 · 17/07/2018 20:29

Most people have hundreds of friends on Facebook so I don't see why adding someone you've been getting to know for 6 weeks would be a problem.
If it doesn't work out you can always delete them off there no harm done :)

Saffzy · 17/07/2018 20:32

There's a website called "Pipl" which brings stuff up, you would need a surname though.

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