Why does my cheating ex want to be friends

[Pigoon1]

Has anyone had a cheating ex leave and want to be friends? Are they for real? How do they treat their enemies?! One of the reasons he gave me when it all came out was 'I don't like being around you' and 'you've changed, you're miserable'.

Why the hell would he want be friends and keep texting how I am then if I'm so terrible.

Really confused after all the blaming I received and then this friends thing. He seems offended that I won't stay in contact!

Because he wants to make himself feel better. If you will keep talking to him then in his head he can't have been that bad (or you wouldn't talk to him) and therefore he can forgive himself. Go no contact and you will feel better much more quickly. He is playing with your brain so be strong

He controlled you by cheating when you were together and being negative to you.

He's controlling you now through this false friendship.

It's all about his ego and control of you.

As PP suggests, NC is the way to go.

He's trying to make himself feel better..

Block him.

Not only is he wanting to make himself feel better but he doesn't like you not needing or wanting him any longer.

NC 100%

Charming ugh.

Okay thanks for the advice about contact.

He’s also trying to get one last emotionally unattached shag.

Tell him to GTFO.

Ugh. He does seem to think he's done nothing wrong, he came to get his belongings and you'd think he was going off on holiday. No conscience at all.

I bet he wants to keep you hanging on in the hope of getting another shag out of you later down the line.

Men like him don't leave a relationship until they've got another one lined up. He's probably trying to keep his foot in the door with you case his new life doesn't work out as planned.
The best way forward is to show you've moved on and don't need him anymore. That will puss him off. Go NC and slam that door in the cheating arsehole's face.

Incase he is caught short on booty calls.
Block and move on.

That's what cheats do - try and keep as many available women around as possible so they can contact them when they're lonely/bored and get an ego boost/shag.

Get rid completely, he's a waste of space.

Friends, or Friends With Benefits?

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He says he misses me as a friend and cares about me. Doesn't care enough not run off with someone 20 years younger though eh.

I’d say that was BS, and he wants you on good terms in case he wants a shag.

I had this same scenario when EXH had an affair and left me for OW. He was desperate to be my "friend" and got offended when I said I wouldn't want a friend who had treated me in the way he had!

He wanted to keep his options open; he couldn't bear the thought of being alone and fancied a back-up plan in case it all went tits-up. I went NC.

Agree with PP..I've had. 2 ex's contact me recently. One from over 2 years ago..when I asked them what the point of getting back in touch was they said to apologise for how theyd treated me. Not interested..there's a reason you split so block and move on.

After 2 years, bloody hell.

Pigoon I know..I was shocked. Different number but recognised the profile pic on wats app.

He wants you on the Booty Call subs bench in case the women he's currently shagging are unavailable some night.

Fuck that.

So easy shag or guilty conscience. Ugh. Ok thanks everyone. Thought he might have a slither of remorse but probably not then.

Maybe he did like you, and misses you, but liked the other person more?

So maybe he isn't just after a shag. However, there is very little in this for you so the outcome is the same! Block and move on.

Yeah maybe. Good luck to them, met by cheating, she's a sulky looking 18 year old that he works with. Half his age.