Finished it but wobbling

[Fuckingfuckityfuck]

I’ve just finished a ten year relationship , I’ve threatened it loads but actually gone through with it .
I finished it because I felt really undervalued he was incapable of telling me he loved me, showing affection or complementing me.hes crap with money. He hardly ever initiated sex and when he did he had trouble performing but wasn’t willing to go to the gps or discuss it.

It all came to a head when we planned to have a weekend away (first time in 6 years!) and had an evening each to plan,I put a lot of thought and money into my night and he hadn’t planned anything I felt so humiliated,I think that’s the overall feeling of the whole relationship I feel humiliated that I made the effort as I think that you should put effort into relationships,but he couldn’t be bothered.
Think I just needed to get it all down anonymously. Thanks for reading can everyone tell me to get a grip please

It's always going to be tough ending a long relationship, OP, but you clearly have many very good reasons to do so and it's hardly on a whim! Now you've done it, stick to it and the rest of your life can be much more satisfying! Well done and good luck!

Well done you OP for realising yourself worth! It's going to be tough but make sure you have some you time!!! Enjoy yourself! Surround yourself with family and friends! And remember laughter is the best medicine xxxxx

I think people really underestimate how difficult it can be to end a relationship. And stick with it!

You have lots of good reasons for finishing with him there, and short of a personality transplant, he’s not going to change.

Thankyou everyone , just been to a friends for a cuppa but didn’t really want to go into details with them . I’m off camping once schools break up, but now have to put a bit more thought into logistics it may have to borrow a trailer 😬which I’m not sure my reversing is up to. And also breaking it to friends and family and kids,I may just say we’ve not been getting on that we need some space and to split for a while that leaves it vague . We’ve got two weeks of living together left before he can move out . I’ve got a lot of paperwork to fill in which should keep me busy for a while .