This is my first post so apologies in advance.
I have been with my partner for 9 years and over the last year he has had a real problem with his temper. He has such a short fuse and anything can set him off into a rage at me. He says that it's because hes tired because his shift pattern is difficult compared to mine. I work full time and do everything in the house but I can't mention being tired because 'my job is easy'. I am really starting to feel like I am walking on eggshells. Things have got worse since I have been back at work full time.
I went out for an hour to see my friend the other evening and he accused me of cheating because the front seat had moved in my car. He has had an affair in the past and I'm not sure if there is something going on again. Everywhere I go now he makes a comment about where I have been.
He will make me late for work and I can't raise this as an issue but when he gets in and wants to go to bed (from a night shift) if I haven't got myself and the kids out by a certain time then he will sit by the door and keep asking me (more demanding) when I'm leaving - I have suggested he could help me but he says no. The other morning I was particularly stressed and he threw all my work all over the floor, I asked him why he had done it and he said because I wasn't out by the time I said I would leave (I was 5 mins after time I said). So after I had put the kids in the car, I went back to get my bag and he grabbed my arm from the door and twisted it behind my back. I said he was hurting me and I turned around to move his arm away and he pushed me in the back and I went flying out of the door, he was shouting I could only come back when he had woken up. When I got back later that evening he said 'that was really wrong of you to scratch me' and sulked because he said I was out of order.
I just try to keep out of his way when he's in one of these moods. Things have definitely been getting worse with his outbursts and now I worry that the kids will witness what's going on. I feel like I am really run down trying to manage everything on my own, he will just shout and swear at me if I ask him to do something in the house when he's not in the mood. I told him that I think we should end things because I can't do it anymore but he said that I'm being ridiculous. I am now at my wit's end but he has said that he really wants to change and is going to get some help with everything. I don't know whether he can change or if I should even trust him. I would say that in the last year it's gone from being weeks without him getting angry to now being every day. He says I should support him as he is going through a difficult time but I just feel like packing and leaving today. Any advice would be much appreciated 