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Should I continue with the call?

27 replies

BWrose · 15/07/2018 18:50

I have one sister. She is estranged from the family but it's not that simple or easy.

She's finds offense easily with things where no harm or offense was meant. She makes so much drama.

She wants nothing more to do with the family and according to her and using her words - 'you are nothing to me'. Apparently we are all dead to her (her words again).

She won't leave us alone. The family has been subjected to a campaign of harassment from her. I could go on with everything she had done but I will be here into the middle of next year.

She won't leave us alone. She seems to have major difficulty at moving on with her decision 'to have nothing more to do with us'.

She wants to make us pay for her hurt feelings. She seems to think she has some sort of a right to do what she is doing.

When all this started and began, we followed the textbook so to speak of not responding. However, we are all on edge now and falling through the cracks and responding sometimes. Which is actually the worst thing to do. You can't reason with someone filled with so much hostility and someone who's trying to push our buttons. I suspect she wants us to respond badly so that she can behave like a maytr.

I was in and out to the police but they weren't helpful. They weren't taking this seriously. They were treating it as if it was a domestic issue and one for civil law.

My hands are tied. I don't have the money to take a civil case.

The harassment is ongoing today. The family are all at our wits ends.

Last week I rang her employer and made an appointment for a phone meeting to discuss matters with her employer. I don't want my sister to get the sack, that would be the worst thing to happen but her harassment and need for constant punishment and revenge has to stop.

What do you think, should I continue with the phone call?

OP posts:
FeckTheMagicDragon · 15/07/2018 20:06

Do not call her employer. Not only is it a bad thing to do - to put her job at risk - but it will not help with any harassment and show you in a very bad light. Making it look like YOU are harressing her, not the other way around.
It would help us understand if you could explain some of the things she has claimed you have done? Even if there were no bad intentions.

hammeringinmyhead · 15/07/2018 20:13

No! That'll be the most awkward phone call in history and they won't be able to get rid of you fast enough.

If you had blocked her and she was using work phone/email to contact you instead then maybe.

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