Hi, is there anyone who could have a read through my reasons for unreasonable behaviour and give me your opinion on whether it is ok?
Thanks
- The respondent looses his temper and is verbally aggressive without warning. The petitioner feels that she has to watch what she says and does so as not to trigger the respondent’s temper. An example of this was in early June when the petitioner asked the respondent if he could cut the grass and the respondent responded angrily and shouting with, " why don't you cut the f**king grass, you do nothing all day", this was followed by the respondent walking behind the petitioner around the house shouting and swearing until his temper died down. This leaves the petitioner always walking on eggshells and anxious.
- The respondent didn't support the petitioner with her father’s cancer diagnosis and subsequent death in April 2018. The respondent constantly lost his temper and didn't support the petitioner with tasks that she couldn't do and tasks her father would help her with. An example of this was in February 2018 when the petitioner asked the respondent if he could check the oil in her car, the respondent replied, " you are a grown women you can do it yourself". This made the petitioner feel lonely, without a safety net.
- The respondent made the petitioner very wary when it comes to money. The respondent told the petitioner that he pays for everything and is intimidating when looking at the houses outgoings. The respondent told the petitioner in May 2018 that, "you had better tell me what you are spending my money on girl". In the same month the respondent also asked the petitioner if, "she was ashamed that she couldn't afford new clothes". This made the petitioner feel humiliated and unequal.
- The respondent does not help the petitioner with any household chores, gardening, maintenance or financial management. The respondent believes the petitioner must do everything as she only works part time and looks after their 2-year-old daughter. In March 2018 the respondent told the petitioner "you do nothing all day, you only work part time you need to make my life easy". This makes the petitioner feel un-respected and unvalued.
- The petitioner finds it hard to communicate with the respondent and feels the respondent belittles what she saying. After struggling with loosing her father and the stress in the relationship, the petitioner told the respondent that she went to see a doctor early 2018 who advised the petitioner to try medication. When the petitioner told the respondent he was horrified, unsupportive and shamed the petitioner into not trying the medication. This left the petitioner feeling even more stressed and anxious.
- Due to the behavior of the respondent the respondent and petitioner spend less time together. The petitioner feels isolated and alone in her marriage and believes the marriage has broken down irretrievably.
The Respondent has behaved in such a way that the Petitioner cannot reasonably be expected to live with the Respondent