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Losing a friend of 10 years

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Dimael · 15/07/2018 09:31

I met my friend at university, we were so close people thought we were sisters. After university she moved home to Greece and I continued to visit every year and talk regularly.
Last summer things changed when she introduced me to her boyfriends friend who she thought would be a match for me. He is but he lives in Greece and I am in the UK. I continued a friendship with this man via Facebook and met up with him over Christmas when I visited Greece again. It had to come to an end as both of us developed feelings that we could do nothing about.
Anyway I was due to visit my friend last week but two weeks prior to going she tells me I can’t stay because she has a new job. I had paid £220 for flights and £360 for an apartment by the sea somewhere which she was going to pay me her half. She refused to pay her half and in the end I paid for flights for my mum to come with me.
She stopped talking to me over this but a mutual friend from university told her I was in Greece so she messaged me about meeting up. I said ok and asked what her plans was she said that she would go to the beach in this peninsula but not sure which one and she had no internet to message on the day. I explained my my mum would have to be involved as not leaving her alone in Greece just months after finishing breast cancer treatment and I said where I would be and at what time. She didn’t turn up or reply to me and later on a photo was posted on Facebook by her boyfriend with my ‘ex’ there and my friend. I feel like I was completely set up and they never intended to meet me. Just humiliate me. She hasn’t contacted me since either.
I accept I am not a perfect person, maybe I could have pushed more to meet up? I wish I never continued talking to the Greek man knowing it would have to end eventually but I did and it was completely amicable at the end.
Not sure what I can do to save the friendship. Or if I should even want to. I feel heartbroken.

OP posts:
twinkle999 · 15/07/2018 09:56

So is she annoyed it didn’t work out with the Greek man? I don’t get it.

springydaff · 15/07/2018 10:01

Wow!

Wtf?? She sounds horrible.

Sorry op Flowers

Dimael · 15/07/2018 10:14

@twinkle999 I suspect so, either that or my ex is making up stories of what ‘I have done’. One of the two. I don’t know which but it is hurting me.
I accept maybe the new job is genuine and I have congratulated her on that, but when I explained that the hotel wouldn’t refund me my money and could she help me out as originally agreed that we would go halves she refused to pay for something she wasn’t going to use. If I had to cancel on a friend knowing they would lose a lot of money I would be offering something to make it better. She can’t even say sorry.

OP posts:
stevesmithsmum · 15/07/2018 10:20

I agree. Your friendship is over. Grieve, feel sad, whatever. But things have ended. You may never actually know what the catalyst was. At the end of the day, it probably doesn’t really matter.

twinkle999 · 15/07/2018 12:19

How odd of her. Maybe try making one more attempt to repair things?

Just say listen I don’t know where it’s gone awry here but I value your friendship and would like to try and make amends. If she doesn’t respond then at least you will know you’ve done what you could?

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