Divorce, autism and more

[Rapunzel26]

Anyone else gone through a divorce ( with a re shit) and selling a house/ moving with an autistic child and a baby m- with no real support to speak of ? Feeling alone and pretty hopeless. Any words of advice would be helpful.

A real shit

didn't want to read and run. Haven't been through it but a friend went through something vaguely similar. She said it got harder at first then easier and much better once she was settled. It was still tough but she felt good about herself and in control.

Thanks PitterPatter- it’s really hard at the moment - I don’t get a minute to myself and because of child’s autism and babies age I am
Screamed at much of the day. Am so run down. Marker is flat anshouse not selling. Have been unwell. Husband has moved to a different city. Thinks he’s an excellent father. Refused to help
Me when I told him doctor had said I may need to go to a and e despite having a long weekend. Apparently he’s the children’s father and not my helper which was his attitude throughout. I feel so abandoned even though I told him to go. I
Miss him and also loathe him. I can’t see life getting better.

Sorry for typos : house notbselling as market flat
Husband refused to help me despite him having a long weekend

Sounds tough, yes, I have been in a similar situation. Can you get a carers assessment or claim DLA to put towards some respite childcare hours?

Do you mean your dh wouldn't have the children for you to go to a and e?

He has Friday off work and was due to come on the Sunday. The doctor had told me I would have to go to a and e immediately for abtiobiotics intravenously if my eye swelled anymore and I have no one to leave my son with- I can’t get nannies for him. My STBXH lives 1.5-2 hours away by train. He was doing the commute daily until recently. I thought with a long weekend he might offer to come an extra day since I was unwell and might need to go to hospital but apparently he’s their father not my helper. This was his attitude before he moved out. It’s hard to only get resentful help from OH when you have a young autistic child and a baby and no family to help.

How are you OP

I’m just feeling very exhausted. My child with autism makes constant demand of me many of which are physically impossible and gives me no space to look after my own needs and I struggle to give my baby the time I want- it’s hard. My STBXH is visiting today to take son out and that’s hard too. He can’t cope with them both on his own so I don’t get any child free time. He has moved to another city and his place there is not suitable for weekend visits. When I see him I feel real sadness and also rage. Thanks Character309.

I can’t see life ever getting easier for me at the moment.

Is the older one old enough for nursery?

Yes older one in nursery but it’s still relentless.