Relationship Counselling

[Hilly1990]

Has anyone any experience of it? Did it work? My bf and I are going as a last chance saloon.

I think me and my oh need this too..although it's prob too late :(

Same :( do you mind me asking what problems you are having? How likely do you think you are to leave? xx

Counseling involves a lot of "things getting even worse" with a tiny chance of making them better at the end.

We just can't seem to communicate.. we are a great team when things are good but as soon as they are not we bring the worst out in eachother.. he can't just tell me I've pissed him off and I can't be bothered with the argument when I do so I just let him get on with it.. we are just going around in circles.. currently think I pissed him off because I disagreed with something he said.. it's ridiculous really. We both love each other very much but I'm bored of the arguing which doesn't seem to be able to stop at the mo.. over ridiculous things.

Waste of money ime. I'm sure it works for some people though.

I've seen a lot of praise for the self-help (and other resources) available from the Gottman Institute

However, I think that all too often by the time one partner has persuaded the other to attend relationship counselling (or the reluctant partner wakes up to the need for it) there is so much baggage in the relationship that it's hard to continue on as a couple.

However, some people report that it makes the break-up less emotional or damaging as both parties have probably come to a similar conclusion about the state of their relationship by then.

Think it depends in the mindset and commitment of both parties. If its one person dragging the other along then no it doesnt work.