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Will it work out?

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mel0609 · 14/07/2018 15:07

Hi everyone, I'm new to this.

Me and my partner have been together for a while (3 years) about a year ago we had a break and a breather as we was always on top of eachother and it was too much. He took this as a break up and went down a bad path. He slept with someone else, we sorted things out and he told me about it (I still don't know who she is)

A year later and I am still thinking about this on occasions. We are really happy at times but other times we argue the toss. We always say we will do things to make things work and then something else comes up. We do get along very well, have a lot in common, have a laugh and he is a really caring person. We have moved in together etc. But lately it feels as if all we are doing is arguing and we won't talk about it straight away we will leave it to stir and build up until one of us burst. I am going through a MC right now and it doesn't help either.

Has anyone got any advice or tips to try and help us be happier? I know couples argue but these are becoming to often! He doesn't like me talking or working with other men, he doesn't like my family, he doesn't like me wearing makeup as he likes the natural me, he doesn't like me on my phone! Are these things to be worried about? Alarm bells or not?

Thankyou everyone, love M x

OP posts:
AtrociousCircumstance · 14/07/2018 15:08

Yeah he’s a controlling arse and you should leave him.

Nothing else to add. Sorry - be strong.

TurnipCake · 14/07/2018 15:09

Yes of course those are things to worry about!

Those are very controlling things

DancingLedge · 14/07/2018 15:10

Yep, plenty ' controller ' red flags there.
Seems to isolate you from family.
Control your phone use.
Tell you how he wants you to look.
Suspects you if you have normal everyday interactions with other men.

Hills.Run.

So sorry about miscarriage.Flowers

Treacletoots · 14/07/2018 15:11

Alarm bells!!!! No one. Repeat. Noone has the right to tell you what to. His behaviour is controlling and manipulative and attempting to isolate you from your family and friends.

You know it's not right. You know it's probably not the best route for you. I won't shout 'leave him' because I from experience that you have to get there in your own time, but that looks like what I would do in your shoes. Best of luck

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