Not working for me

[Hueandcry]

I've had a brief 2 month relationship with someone I met online. He's a lovely man but very full on & dare I say 'needy. I tried to end things a few weeks ago as I felt it wasn't working for me but he persuaded me to give it another chance. I haven't been in a relationship(apart from a short ldr last year) for about 5 years so used to my own space. I just feel suffocated. He wants to know what I'm doing all the time. This morning he asked if i was upset with him because I didn't send him a gif & kisses first thing!!! Is it just me?? It's just all a bit too much.....

It’s not about what others think, this is too much for you and he needs more than suits you.

It’s enough to call it a day. You need to feel comfortable in your relationship and you don’t.

Ditch him and then block him. It's not normal behaviour. You are not obliged to be with anyone, so just get rid. He's sounds like a nightmare.

You’re not comfortable with him and wanted to end it weeks ago - end it already, be firm and clear, and block him if —when— he hassles you.

I'm 'needy' like this in relationships, and like lots of messages etc; but realise not everyone feels the same. You aren't compatible, and shouldn't feel suffocated in a relationship, so end it so both of you can find more suitable partners.

It's not you. It's not normal.

Healthy relationships do not make you feel suffocated. This isn't love or care it's control.

End it. Block. Don't be pressured or manipulated into "trying again".

You already wanted it to end. If he respected you, he would have respected your decision.

You might want to check out www.freedomprogramme.co.uk so you can spot the warning signs and jettison these types sooner in future! It will also help you trust and rely upon your own instincts and boundaries more easily.

Neediness is a very unattractive trait and it's not bourne out of affection for the other person

End it, but this time you need to block him after making it clear you don't want to Brest from him again

Thanks for all the replies. I just needed to hear it from someone else but you've all confirmed what I was thinking.

Bin him off, he sounds suffocating

End it and don't engage with him again if he tries to talk you round. Be prepared to block him if necessary.

I've ended it. Before I had the chance to block him I received no less than 5 messages telling me he doesn't believe me, that I'm wrong, that I must reconsider & that he's the one for me. Omg I have done the right thing

Blocked him now

Only you can say whether you’ve done the right thing but, from what you’ve told us, 100% yes

I know I've done the right thing. I'm just a bit disappointed that it took such a lot for me to try old again & its ended like this. By the messages he has sent since im sure i have dine the right thing for me