Silent and sulking

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When is silent treatment abusive? My HusbAnd is still not speaking to me- but is he just childish or is it abusive? How can i tell the difference?

Both. It's childish and abusive. A big sign of emotional immaturity. run

Childish if he is the one to apologise and is willing to work on HIS communication skills.
Abusive if you end up apologising and capituling to end the sulking when you've done nothing wrong. It's a means of control.

Still not sure i understand. I pointed out an unfair reaktion from him yesterday and usually get the reason for his silence, that he cant talk to me. Or there is Nothing to Say. He have said good morning but has gone back to bed. I carry on as normal, but i Will talk to him About it later and want to understand as he usually blame me for his silence or just deny it and say he was tired.

Daughters friend is being picked up in an hour - they usually come in for Coffee- interesting how he Will be! Now he is sulking in garden instead of bed - but totally avoiding me..

things I’ve done what you said before - apologised for things that aren’t my fault to stop the silent treatment. It’s horrible and leaves you feeling a little bit crazy.

It is abusive isn’t it? I’d never thought of it like that

It’s a form of passive agressive abuse.

This is worth a read;’:

pairedlife.com/problems/silent-treatment-abuse

Thanks.. I Will read the link - i need to understand what he is doing.