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Split up but living in a council house

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Noodlee · 14/07/2018 08:26

Please help!! My now-ex partner and I have split up but we are joint tenants at a council house that we have been living at since May. We have a 9 month old daughter who we both love so much. I'm 20 and he is 21 and I have no idea where to go with this. He still wants to be together and has not accepted the break up so living together is like hell. He wants me to have the house and he move out but he works part time (can't get a full time job) so can't afford to move out and hasn't even looked. Can I claim the house as a single tenant and he goes back on the housing list for a place of his own. Also he would have our lo on the weekends so could he claim a two bed for that?

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LivesToTravel · 14/07/2018 08:36

You need to speak to the council. The reality is he wouldn’t be a priority so he would most likely be put in temporary accommodation for quite a while depending on housing supply. He also wouldn’t be automatically eligible for a 2 bed and may have to pay spare room tax and depending on your area and any benefit he is on he may only receive shared room rate which is quite low. Is there any way he can move in with parents or family or friends?

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Noodlee · 14/07/2018 09:30

No all his family live in Ireland so he has no where to go and my dad's house is too full with my sister and her family living there

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Gooseygoosey12345 · 14/07/2018 09:32

I was in the same situation as you. My ex rented a room until he was back on his feet. It's worth looking into that

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Noodlee · 14/07/2018 14:10

He said he doesn't want to rent a room so I don't know what to do. He said it wouldn't work with out daughter but he also suffers from social anxiety so I think that is a part of it too

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RunMummyRun68 · 14/07/2018 14:14

split up....no chance of working on things?

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Noodlee · 14/07/2018 14:54

No he is suffocating me as he really wants to get back together but he has just pushed me away even further now and just really pissing me off to be honest

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RunMummyRun68 · 14/07/2018 15:32

Might be better for you to move out then. He's going to drag his heels forever otherwise

Can you go to a family member? Are you going back to work soon?

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Noodlee · 14/07/2018 15:48

I can't afford to move out either. I have started a new job and just finished the training and shadowing next week but I'm only going to be working 3 days a week so I can't afford that

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AlwaysSleepy1 · 14/07/2018 15:56

You really need to speak to the Council. Depending on your area he would only get a bedsit/house share as a single male and the person who receives the child benefit can claim for the child in their bedroom need (in my area at least)- depending on your current property could you speak to Council about both moving to separate properties and potentially downsizing?

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