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Unattractive or just needy?

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Deehit · 14/07/2018 07:47

I have been with my fiancé 2 years. He was never shy about his sex drive he openly admitted he loves sex in fact in the early stages of our relationship I couldn't keep up.

But his sex drive has disappeared.

He never wants sex....ever and if I touch him or try it on he removes my hand and tells me to stop it.

We are lucky if we have sex once every 6 weeks.

I should tell you we have a 6 month old.

He claims he is too tired and he just wants to relax and his back is hurting.

Don't get me wrong I am exhausted aswell but I am craving some affection. We don't cuddle anymore because he says he can't relax with me wrapped around him. We don't kiss unless I kiss him and even then it's just a peck.

I understand that the honeymoon period dies down and having children can take over. But I'm not talking every night I say I try it on probably once a week and when I'm told to stop I do and just go to sleep.

Since having my daughter I am having major body issues....I feel disgusting fat and squishy I don't feel attractive anymore. But I fear he thinks that too and is just no longer attracted to me. I always try make myself look ok. I am always clean shaved, bit of tan on, nails polished, hair brushed which is a struggle in itself with being a new Mum.

Am I too needy or should I be worried?

OP posts:
Happysbno4 · 14/07/2018 07:54

You need to tell him. I believe for myself the physical element is like glue that holds you togeather. Hugs kisses are just as important as sex.

Deehit · 14/07/2018 07:57

I have mentioned it. In fact I have rolled over at times and cried. The response I get is " I think your out of order for making me feel guilty that I have a sore back and I'm tired"

OP posts:
Bea1985 · 14/07/2018 08:04

Tbh unless your 6 month old sleeps through and is an amazing napper. He probably is exhausted. I think it's too soon after birth to be stressing about how often you have sex. Xx

Mintychoc1 · 14/07/2018 10:00

I think you need to have a serious talk with him. It’s one thing to be too tired at bedtime to have sex, but to not want any kind of intimacy - cuddles etc - is not normal. How is the relationship in other ways? Do you still have fun and laugh, and find eachother interesting?

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