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Hating myself right now

16 replies

GFat32 · 13/07/2018 17:42

So so angry at myself right now!!!! I only have myself to blame

I was dating a guy for a few months he asked me to be his gf after 3 months then a week later he told me he wasn’t ready. Blocked him from messaging moved on then he began three weeks later messaging me on instagram (I didn’t delete him off that as I wanted him to see me having fun not caring about him lol) we got chatting and he told me he missed me, he was completely in love with me wanted to be with me. We messaged back and forth constant for ten days (he was on a family break with DC and his parents) he told me he told his parents and DC all about me he didn’t want to waste any More time. I told him how hurt I’d been the last time and he promised he wouldn’t risk losing me again.

He got home from holiday I went to his stayed the night spent the next day together and just before leaving I asked him ‘what we’re we doin’ well app there is no reason to put a label on it why can we just not date and see what happens.

Basically denied everything he had said about not wasting time and being a proper couple. Honestly it was like two different people. I left and was quite breezy about it yea let’s date. But then the wall of silence has happened again. Wtaf!!!!!! How can you go from telling someone you love them want a family with them etc would he really do all that for a quick shag??? Why bother!!!

I’m so hurt again I suffer from depression he knows this too and how insecure I am about being hurt again after exh and he does this. I want to block him again but part of me is hoping he’ll chnage his mind and tell me he does want all this

OP posts:
AnyFucker · 13/07/2018 17:43

The definition of madness is....

GFat32 · 13/07/2018 17:45

I know I need to stop going back

I just genuinely don’t know why anyone would say all those things just for what?? Why are people like this

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Biscusting · 13/07/2018 17:45

but part of me is hoping he’ll chnage his mind and tell me he does want all this

^^the only ‘WTAF’ part of this

TurnipCake · 13/07/2018 17:49

I want to block him again but part of me is hoping he’ll chnage his mind and tell me he does want all this

OP this is madness and you know it

pisces7268 · 13/07/2018 17:52

He might've been bored in holiday and passed the time by talking to you?

GFat32 · 13/07/2018 17:52

I know I know

I have read through all the messages again just to make sure I didn’t take them wrong but I really don’t think I did. He’s made me feel a bit mad

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TurnipCake · 13/07/2018 17:54

He has gaslighted you. Telling you he was in love and wanted to be with you to suddenly, "We don't need to label this"

Block the indecisive fucker and pity the person he ends up with

AnyFucker · 13/07/2018 17:56

You are an easy shag to him now. He probably has someone else on the simmer. Find your self respect and block him for good.

Horsesforcourses23 · 13/07/2018 18:04

Gas lighting is horrible and it's happened to me before... keeping you on the hook for when it's convenient. Block him, and then you'll be free to find someone else x

GFat32 · 13/07/2018 18:06

I know deep down it’s just sex to him but when he said all that stuff last week I was like finally this is it I really believed him

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Aquamarine1029 · 13/07/2018 18:09

His words are trash. Believe his actions. Block him PERMANENTLY and move on.

GFat32 · 14/07/2018 22:24

Day one of no contact! I’m doing it this time

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AnyFucker · 14/07/2018 22:46

Good for you. Now stick to it.

Hidingtonothing · 15/07/2018 02:38

Time wasters like him are merely blocking the way for the decent ones OP, good decision to go NC Star Come back if you feel yourself weakening, nothing better than a MN talking-to to put you back on the straight and narrow Smile

GFat32 · 15/07/2018 10:23

Woke up to a message from him asking when we can have sex again! Wtf I haven’t replied

I honestly cannot understand why he told me all those things just for sex

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AnyFucker · 15/07/2018 10:56

Block him

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