How do you leave a relationship

[Kaykj84]

I want to leave my relationship but I literally don't know how. It's his 30th birthday in two weeks so I feel like I'm just staying so he has a birthday, but then I think it's stupid to stay with him for his birthday. Literally I don't know what to do, is there ever a good time to leave someone and is there ever a way to not cause them too much damage mentally

Firstly, be certain about things. No maybes or ifs. If this is a break up that is really an ultimatum, don't do it. Talk about what is bothering you instead.

If you are certain, choose a time when they have some space, for example at the weekend. Explain calmly that you no longer wish to pursue a relationship with them and there is nothing they can do to persuade you otherwise. Then, allow them some space to process things. If you live together, arrange to stay somewhere else for a day or two so they can have some time to contemplate things in a comfortable environment.

Keep blame to a minimum. Keep your explanations simple and consistent. And reassure them that the relationship was a treasured experience for you, even though its time has come to an end.

There's never a good time.

But remember, people break up all the time and they recover perfectly well. With the best will in the world, you're not that great that he'll never be happy again . We love, we split, we love again. Life is too short to be wasting with someone who you don't want to be with anymore from your side, and too short to spend with someone who isn't into you, for his own sake.