Ok, so after 24 hours on POF, I decided internet dating wasn't for me. I need your help though....

[Bubblesandcake]

I'm lonely and bored and really don't want to rely on a man to stop me from being all of those things....
Can you share with me what all you lovely single people do with your time. That makes you happy.
I'm a single mum/student nurse/poor/lack of childcare....but really need some inspiration because I don't want to drink another bottle of wine feeling sorry for myself. I want to be fulfilled and happy. I really don't want to date anymore.

What would make you happy?

Any hobbies that you used to do / would like to take up?
How old are your children / child?

so you gave internet dating 24 hours/ it took me 12 months to find someone i wanted to share my life with, how about doing free internet courses coursera is brilliant for spending some time, they are bits of university courses and very interesting, join the library lots of interesting books for free, take the children swimming not that expensive and good exercise, if they are at school do a bit of volunteering, i work in a charity shop one afternoon a fortnight and have made some really good female friends there

Join a single parent group such as ‘Gingerbread’ ? Girl I once worked with really enjoyed their activities.

if you want an inspirational story - J K Rowling. Create the next harry potter!

I am not single, but I have my own hobbies. DO you like reading? crafts? painting? starting a child related business?

I know I didn't give it enough time. It was really not helping. Maybe my head is not in the right place for it.
My dd's are 13 and 10. We are going swimming tomorrow. I would love to commit to the gym/classes but I don't have childcare. I don't have the motivation to do it at home. I don't like being stuck in.
I have been so busy studying and being in a relationship that was totally not good for me, I had no time to find out what I enjoy.

I'm in my last year of a nursing degree so no time to do extra study.
Yes, what an amazing inspiration she is. I can't imagine me making my millions any time soon though.

OP I think you have to be in the right headspace for OLD. It made me feel worse and I gave it much longer than you. It zapped my confidence as people ghost you,make and break dates,tell you theyre not feeling a connection etc etc. You need thicker skin than me!! So...back to the question..I like walking, adult colouring, reading, crafts,box sets, volunteering,making up shoeboxes of toys for appeals at Christmas through my local church,batch cooking...just have a think about what you might like. And remember,you're already " whole" you don't need "another half"to complete you!

A project can be good. Get a pencil and a pad, then design your new garden. A herb garden here, a vegetable patch there, a rockery here, a small pond there.....
Then buy the herbs etc and plant them. Mint here, parsley there...

Most of the fun is in the planning.

I gave up internet dating a few months ago personally because I realised I have nothing to offer or talk about as I have no hobbies and I am an introvert so I am used to being bored (single parent here too )

But @Bubblesandcake you should be proud of yourself, doing something you love and thriving. Don't let loneliness take you to OLD because then you would have to lower your standards just to have someone to talk to . I don't have any useful advice but just to say I admire you and slightly envy you . Keep pushing through x

Join your DD’s to brownies/scouts and become a volunteer assistant yourself. Loads of fun activities, weekend camps, other leaders to chat to - I loved helping when my DC’s were young