"Freedom", "personal space" and "how often do you text"

[BloodyDisgrace]

I have a question for anybody who's got time to answer/cares.
Suppose your husband says he's having some drinks with workmates after work, or has something else to do (no matter what) before coming home. Do you text/phone him while he is away? Do you ask "Where are you?" "When are you coming home?" If yes, why do you do it? Does your husband do the same when you are out?

I ask this because I read a lot here how wives text their husbands in this manner. Is it how a lot of people live these days once we all have smartphones? I never did that to any of my husbands/boyfriends. My 1st husband was a very socially active, politically engaged person, and he always told me in advance he has something after work, and I just waited, reading a book/doing the dinner/seeing friends meanwhile, and he'd phone to say he is on the way. None of the men I were with in any meaningful relationships ever checked on me. I went to a night club a few times without my boyfriend (as it wasn't his kind of thing) and never had the Lady Gaga "Telephone" song kind of treatment from him.

In fact, I'd hate if someone texted/phoned me when I'm out. I'd feel like a leash around my neck is tightening and pulling, and it would aggravate me. The tighter the grip - the more a person would feel trapped and want to get out. I'm a housewife now with a lot of free time during the day, and my 2nd husband never texts "What are you doing?"

Do you think a lot more marriages could be saved if we didn't text all the time?
Thank you.

What are NORWICH and BURMA??
Dp and I text to ask if other needs anything from the shop, or to say what time we'll be home-and occasionally a 'love you' type message if one of us is going to be having a tough day, but that's about it

My DH and I talk and text alot everyday, if something pops into our heads and want to share, I love that about our relationship and he does too. If he's going out I don't really contact him unless I need to ask him something or whatever, because of where we live though usually I'll collect him and vice versa because you'd nearly need to remortgage the house to get a cab home

We text during the day if there's something to say. Today I've texted to say that I will be back from work in time to collect DD so DH doesn't need to. Another day he might text to see if I want him to get anything from the shops, or to let me know he's popping in to see his parents on the way home. We don't tend to chat during the day because we're working. If one of us goes away for more than one night we usually FaceTime, but that's more for DD's benefit. Before we had her, we wouldn't bother. If he's been away I like to know what time he's coming back. If one of us is out for the evening we wouldn't usually communicate, except for the time I put the oven on and accidentally cremated the pizza he'd left in there for when he got back . I'm going out on Friday and will be coming back on the last train, so I'll let him know if I miss it or it's cancelled but otherwise wouldn't.

I always text DH to ask him what time he's going to be home. I don't care if that's at 8pm or at 3am, I'd just like to know when to expect him.

He'll do the same if I'm out, I don't see that there's anything wrong with that.

We text through the day every few hours or so.

NORWICH, BURMA and many many more!