Long story short, I'm terribly unhappy in my marriage for numerous reasons.
Husband started a business while I was a sahm without any consultation from me and it has taken over our lives. Every minute of every day is taken up by working on the business, there is zero family time, zero relationship time.
I feel miserable.
One major issue I have with this is that not only has this business (that's not running yet) taken over our time and infected our marriage with arguments, but the mess and disgraceful state of the place because of DH not tidying up.
DH has the entire separate second lounge and garage which is taken over by parts and junk.
Not only that but cups and plates and he thinks of it as entirely his space and so feels like just dumping clothes and coat hangers, shoes, food and not keeping any area of it tidy is fine. The garage is full to bursting with junk. There's a shed full of junk. A workshop you can't get into and a further space/corridor room further bursting with junk.
Unsorted. Thrown in. Piled up.
We had another argument last night over the shared lounge. I pointed out that it's absolutely filthy and I'd only cleaned some of it that day and had spent the entire day Monday cleaning and sorting out the entire house. He simply responded by asking me to help him tidy up and when I pointed out that I had already spent Monday cleaning everything and trying to tidy and was not prepared to tidy someone else's junk he said he would now 'never help me ever again'.
I just feel like if you have hoarded and created the mess then it's yours to sort out. I'm fed up with spending my spare time cleaning after someone.
I want a divorce.