Help sexually feeling towards husbands best mate

[Sammy897]

Hi everyone I need some help my husbands best mate come round while my husband was out at football. We where talking and having a laugh there has also been a bit of flirting between us for years but this time he made a move on me but soon left after rejection but now I can’t stop thinking about him sexually.... also I keep waking up thinking about him. Please Help I dunno what to do. Me and husband haven't been right for years so do I make a fresh start.

Yeah I’m not interested in sex with him or anyone what I’m saying is tho I still get turned on and sexually attractive to other men and sometimes very rare my DH but just not interested in the sex tho I think I have a low sex drive but then I don’t know because I still get very turned on by other men

I repeat, the OP is a peach

She lies to her husband that she has a low sex drive and isn't interested in sex but has no problem pleasing herself, fantasises about shagging his best mate (putting aside other men too), and knows it's upsetting her husband.

When we hear of men not wanting sex with their wives but are happily jerking themselves off, it doesn't generally go down very well. Nor should it because the shoe is on the other foot.

Mind you, I also have to say that if I am in a happy relationship I never even think about having sex with anyone else, but I realise others are different.

Ohhhhh - you’ve been caught on on a lie haven’t you, saying your happily married on one thread then saying your not on this - trying to justify your actions? Yikes. Feel sorry for your husband and children.

OP, the best thing you can do to an itch is to give it a good scratch. Shagging this bloke will take your mind off things a bit. You can worry about where to live, that your husband's got custody of the children and boring stuff like that after.

Give it time Sammy, the attraction will wane. Seriously, a bit of lust here and there doesn't mean anything; don't kid yourself thinking it does. It'll evaporate into the lamplight before you could even get one step towards that idyllic "new start" you're romanticising. It'll go poof in 1 month, tops.

Now put that out of your head and do some serious thinking about whether or not what you have with your husband is worth working on.