I’m not long out of a relationship of 5 years. The classic - at first everything was great, then there were odd comments / arguments, very sporadically, then more and more and in the last 6 months of the relationship things were worse.
When I say comments / arguments I mean things like:
- telling me how attractive I USED to be
- telling me I’m “over sensitive”
- trying to restrict how much toilet paper I use due to cost
- telling me the electricity bill has gone up because I have showers and use the kettle
- blaming my cooking for his weight gain (we actually ate very healthily, only had takeaway once every few months, all home cooked meals with plenty of veg)
- telling his child off and then blaming me for him telling them off
- blaming me for things like HIM getting a speeding ticket because we’d gone to a shop I wanted to go to
- telling his child not to worry as they’d “never have to see that bitch again” (me)
- throwing something, allegedly not aimed at me, but it hit me and left a bruise of around 2 inches
- telling me “you were sexually abused, so what, grow a f*cking pair and get over it”
I know this is abusive behaviour and I know I should have got out sooner, before anyone says. I always verbally stood up for myself whenever he made those comments and I never believed the things he said when he was blaming me or similar.
I’ve heard about the Freedom Programme but it says on their website things like stopping you seeing friends, controlling money, locking you in the house, etc. When I look at the yes/no statements, I only answer yes for one.
For those of you who’ve done The Freedom Programme, or know more about it, would it be suitable for me or not?
Thanks