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I messed up and lost for what to do.

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LucianXavier1370 · 11/07/2018 12:51

I have no positive feelings about admitting this used to be a royal prick minus the royal to my now ex partner and treated em like they were over reacting because in my head, since I was very very young, inexperienced and thought momma knew best, that's exactly what it was to me. It wasn't until I stayed clean that I saw what I had done for what it was. I know I can never "fix it" but I feel like I cant stop trying. I am even more in love with my ex than ever since I can think clearly but I realize I've done a lot of harm. I really have changed, but also being abused mentally I can attempt to imagine how hard it is for her to even talk to me since we have child together. Their safety and happiness are my priorities. All I want is to be our child's dad, and to show my ex that she will never have anything to fear from me again. Yes I am not the brightest by any means but there are virtually no limits(with the exception of causing harm or ill will in any way at all to any living being) to what I am open to doing to help them heal, if that's what's best. The only thing I am not going to do, or at least the last thing, is to leave out of my kid's life. I'm new on here and desperately need real advice.

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ACatsNoHelpWithThat · 11/07/2018 12:58

Sounds like your ex needs time to heal and you need to give her the space to do that. Respect her wishes, pay child maintenance, if you're seeing your child then don't dick around with contact. In time you might be able to regain some trust so you can have a good relationship with your child but you have no right to expect your ex to forgive you/get back with you. Some bridges remain burned.

LucianXavier1370 · 11/07/2018 13:07

I have no such expectations of getting back with her. I still have hope she'll take me back, but I'm not completely blind. I know that's not ok by any means.if she let's me have a good relationship with our child, that's infinitely more than I deserve.

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