I live at home with my mother and one brother. Things at home turned for the worst last year. My brothers attitude was just absolutely disgusting. There's very little conversation from him. He speaks sometimes but rarely. When he does speak, its a grunt.
He very rarely helps at home with other jobs and duties. For instance, he has a car and he could help our mother once in a while by taking her to do a group shop. He used to help before but he's withdrawn that. That job is on my back all the time. I don't have a car so it's online groceries, which is another drain on my bank account. He doesn't pay towards bills.
Another job that had to be done over the past few months was the cutting of the lawn which he turned his back to there. It's completely overgrown. If we were to get a gardener in, it will be another bill costing 100s because of the state of it. A bill for me and our mothers backs, something my brother would be more than delighted to.
He's 27. He works full time. He goes out regularly with his friends where it might take him a day or two to return. His hangovers aren't normal either. It's like he goes into a depression, staying in bed all the time. If he rises, for food, he's nearly heartbroken and starts slamming things and doors to cupboards around the kitchen. A regular occurrence is losing his belongings on nights out, having to replace his mobile phone and e cigarette often.
Twice since May, he came home - drink driving.
I reckon there is more than alcohol involved.
Something happened this week. We will call him brother C.
Brother A lives abroad. He came home this week with his partner and child. Brother C fell over himself to help brother A. Ringing in sick into work to go to the airport to meet and greet them.
I would have loved to have gone to the airport but I couldn't. Our mother was the same. She wanted to go too but couldn't. She said she will allow brother A and partner and child to settle in and visit.
Brother C met brother A at the airport and eventually they parted because they were going separate ways.
Brother C, for the past week, before brother A's departure, happened to find his words and speak to our mother saying things like
'you will have to go and visit them and provide granny duties'.
Going by what brother C is saying, he nearly expects to pack a bag and move to where brother A is, for weeks on end.
My mother isn't one bit happy with what is being expected of her. Give up everything here to provide a granny service with free childcare. She will have no problem visii and helping but packing things up entirely at home.
Brother C (this is the one who lives at home) he rang home after meeting brother A, to tell our mother that A is mad at her for not meeting them at the airport and giving granny duties a.s.a.p. Right now, right this week.
A rang our mother yesterday and there wasn't an issue. He was very calm on the phone. He's looking forward to seeing our mother and me, whenever we can make it. Aside from that, there was no issue.
Brother C is the only one with expectations of our mother to give up her life and give granny duties. It looks to me as if he wants our mother, just gone and out from the house.
I'm gobsmacked and sick to my stomach at the greed and the selfishness from brother C and this is a whole new low from him.