I'm in the process of working out how to leave.
The underpinning problem is that my family unit doesn't work because of:
a) competing needs of 4 differently autistic children.
b) a husband who makes things worse and doesn't value or respect me.
c) possibly that I've finally found my voice and realised that compliant wife is not the role I want.
d) I'm really bloody miserable.
I'm going to CAB next week to find out what I can or can't do.
I'm on meds for anxiety, which have helped me to take stock, and I realise that I can't/don't want to do this any more.
My ideal plan would be to move (current house, which we own, is tiny) with the three younger DC leaving the older child (who works) with DH.
I would hope it would make managing the mix of needs easier as both DH and I would have more of a break.
Has anyone done similar?
I'm swinging between feeling excited about it and feeling in the depths of despair as I don't know whether financially this is possible.