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Why women love a bad boy

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ConfusedFeminist · 10/07/2018 18:26

Saw this on Facebook and it really resonated with me.

www.facebook.com/triggerpod/videos/239293220217797/

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Horsesforcourses23 · 10/07/2018 18:39

That's interesting, I once watched a TED talk about this kind of thing and it was a tiny bit similar. It was basically saying that, everyone needs to be multi dimensional, for example, some one can be really funny but if that's all they are it would get boring really quickly, similarly someone can be gorgeous but again it would get boring if that's all they were. "Bad boys" if you will are multi dimensional apparently in so much that, they will be funny and clever, or charming and kind etc etc... but have an edge to them thats just a bit different. Apparently it's a subconscious thing you get attracted to. So like what she was saying, they're kind to "you" but could be harsh...

Was an interesting video and probably made way more sense than how I've wrote it! I'll see if I can find it and post it up!

AnastasiaVonBeaverhausen · 10/07/2018 18:45

I can't open that link so my comment might be irrelevant but I must be unusual in that I've never been attracted to "bad boys". I've never seen the appeal of being treated badly or being the one who tamed him.

ConfusedFeminist · 10/07/2018 18:54

I found the same vid on Twitter - check it out:

twitter.com/triggerpod/status/1016339076797161474

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PinguDance · 10/07/2018 19:10

You could have field day pulling this theory apart in a psychology essay. What’s a ‘bad boy’ for a start? Do we have comprehensive studies to demonstrate women do in fact love these bad bois? Etc etc etc. If it resonates with you then it could be a good starting point for reflecting on your relationships or what have you but the science is suspect af.

Aussiebean · 10/07/2018 19:18

My brothers theroy (who is not a bad boy) was that women liked the bad boys when the are young and carefree.

However, when they get older and are looking for a life partner, someone to support and love them and future children, they tend to change and go for the nicer more stable guys.

This was years ago, not sure if he still believes it, but it makes sense.

Aussiebean · 10/07/2018 19:18

For some anyway

Bluesue26 · 10/07/2018 19:41

Never ever been interested in "bad boys". I think it's because I had a very difficult upbringing and my dad was never in my life. The thought of being with someone who brings chaos and instability to a relationship makes me extremely anxious. Not for me

dirtybadger · 10/07/2018 19:51

Do women actually "love a bad boy"? Im with Pingu-how do we operationalise a "bad boy"? Im sure you could sell a lot of pop-psych books on it (or get a few TED talks) but the whole theoretical underpinning is very flimsy, not uncommon in evo-psych.

Openup41 · 10/07/2018 20:25

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