Anyone who met their partner 33 or after? Please give me hope!

[MatronicO6]

So I have really struggled with the recent end of a relationship. What's caused me the most anxiety is how long it took me to find someone like him who I had a genuine connection with and I'm worried I can't or just won't find that again.

Just wondering if women here have been in this position and have some reassuring stories. I literally thought he was the man I was going to marry and have kids with so any hope is much appreciated.

My stepmother was extremely fortunate in becoming pregnant naturally at 42. It can happen that way, too.

These stories are so short but still unexpectedly touching!

My marriage ended at 35 and I didn't think I'd ever have a relationship like that again and wasted far too much time on an idiot but then I met someone amazing who has reminded me what love is :)

Not myself but my bro. He found his soulmate at 37. There is ALWAYS hope x

Hi, I’ve come to join you in solidarity. I haven’t met anybody either, I am about to be 35 in August. I’ve kind of given up on the idea. I don’t like complicated things, I really like my work, and if need be, I will have a donor for my baby, as in sperm bank. If I decide to do that. Somebody in Greece offered to introduce me to a man I might like but I need to be able to continue with my work and the things I like to do. Not always easy for men to except I don’t think.

I am utterly ancient in comparison! I met DP just after I was 57, courtesy of Match.

How did it end op? No chance of sorting things out? Xx

Met when 35 (post awful relationship), married years 2 years later, had DS at 38 and DD at 41, both conceived within 3 months

Lots of hope on this thread !

This is a nice thread.
I'm 35 just separated after 15 yrs together with 2 kids.
I thought he was the 1, now thinking I'm destined to be single forever.
But maybe not after reading these posts...

I often ponder on this Op.

I've been separated for almost 2 years exactly, divorced since January. Its taken me all that time to get over the relationship I had with my ex really, it wasn't healthy and ended traumatically. I'm mid thirties now so very curious if i will ever experience a real, genuine loving relationship. I hope so because I would love to have another child.

DH was thirty three when we met

Came back from abroad after ending a 7 year relationship with nothing but a bag of clothes that no longer fitted the weather. Vowed to stay away from relationships... Met my partner in January, wee surprise pregnancy in March ,mortgage house and car by August and baby by December! Still together 20 years later

My DH and I met in our early 40s. Married late 40s, both now mid 50s ridiculously happy and as loved up as a pair of teenagers. Age is no barrier to happiness.

3 examples for you to take heart from!

My aunt - was with a massive dickhead from ages of 17-38. Never married or had kids. She wanted both. She met her DH at 39, fell pregnant with DS1 at 40, shotgun wedding , had DS2 at 42 (both natural), now early 50s and very happy.

My sister - Split from her exH at 32. Dated a bit of a nob for a few years. Split at 36. Met her now fiancé a year later. Now very happy.

Me - split from exH at 32. Dated a few people, nothing serious. Met DP at 33. Now 36 and very happy.

You WILL find it again, it's out there! You have more time than you think.

I split from my partner of 7 years just before my 31st birthday. Met DH a few weeks after turning 32. It was tricky as we had to factor in the fact we lived on different continents but we managed to fit in two international moves in between having our first child just after I turned 36, 2nd child at 38 and got married at 40. It can be done!

Met DH when I was 35. I had been single A LOT before I met him. Married 2 years later and 2DC after that.

I'm 38 and single again. I am now working on being a healthy, happy single person so that if I don't meet anybody it doesn't matter. I exercise most days, try different ways of socialising, am having art therapy and have taken up meditation. Life is good ☺️

It ended weirdly, we had been friends for a long time always felt there was a connection but knew he'd been very hurt in past so never pushed anything. Then eventually he did admit he had feelings and we began a great relationship until it, got more serious and he panicked a bit and totally withdrew. Completely shutdown. Can't even talk about it... I know he does care for me, but I can't hang on hoping someday he'll become emotionally available.
Also even if we did work it out and got to that point, he could just do it again. I have reached the point where I want stability, despite being in love with him I feel this time I have to love myself more.

I split with partner of 17 years last year. I am 38 nearly 39 and believe (though it’s early days) that I have met the great love of my life. He is 42 and divorced. Don’t give up OP

I was out of a ten year emotionally abusive relationship at 30 and felt the same thing. Met DH at 32 and I'm a different person now. It is definitely possible.

met DH at 41 (he was divorced and 48), married at 43, very happy!

It's annoying when people say '33 is no age' and you're sitting there thinking, 'But it IS, FFS!!' but so many of my friends didn't meet their partners/spouses until they were in their 30s. There really isn't a rule that says you can only find lasting happiness between the ages of 25-29. The baby thing makes it more time-sensitive, but again, several friends didn't have children until they were late 30s/early 40s, and others (inc me) have missed the baby boat but found a lot of happiness with stepchildren. One thing I've come to realise as I've got older is that happiness comes in lots of different shapes, and not always via the way you expect it to.

Met my Mr Awesome at 35 after divorcing Mr Pig at 33. We have been together 5years now, very happy, married last year and a perfect little DD aged 18 months.

Met my DH early on in my thirties. I was very bad at relationships before. It was still very challenging and we had two children with only 18 months between them.

Safe to say...no more children for us now. You need to make sure you are strong mentally and emotionally before you meet someone. You can really do the work in an intensive way if you're focused. Discard all of baggage and test your assumptions. Be open and get out there and just have a great time.

My DH drives me mad. But I love him deeply. When we met he was ready and he pushed it all through. It happens, be brave

Met my husband at 35 - married at 39 and had our daughter at 41. Crack on and stop worrying about it... in all likelihood it will be fine.

Met DH at 33 on internet dating site. Knew reasonably quickly we wanted the same things. Pregnant a year later, now have 3 DCs. Just don’t end up with time wasters and be open to the kind of man you may actually end up falling for

I got married at 36 and had a baby earlier this year. My friend met her partner at 35, got engaged and married at 36. She's now 38 and pregnant. Once they found each other and realised they wanted to be together they moved fairly quickly because they realised that time wasn't on their side if they wanted kids.

Imo you need to get serious about dating. Meet lots of people. Try speed dating or matchmaker services. Don't waste time on anyone who isn't a long term prospect or doesn't treat you as one. Be clear up front about your timescale and what you're looking for.