Dealing with Flirty Woman

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Been with my boyfriend 3 years we are VERY HAPPY, however we both do have our own lives, he is down the pub quite often with his mates - whatever floats your boat is the way I see it. I've had a stressful few weeks and I suffer from IED (Intermittent Explosive Disorder) which I have been managing to keep quite well under control, until sunday morning. Boyfriends phone keeps ringing and I see its his mate and then as I close the call I see a message from the night before from a barmaid at our local saying something along the lines of were looking for some guys to come party with me and my hot mate xxxxxxxx. Now bf is great I see in sent box he replied 'no thanks mate' But I am struggling with holding in my anger with going down there to speak with her, its been 3 days now - anger plan usually involves me keeping my cool and I usually realise that what I have been angry about is unnecessary however 3 days later I feel like I am totally justified and I really want to confront her! She has seen me in the pub with him so she knows who I am, Do I confront her? What would you do?

Smirk at her regularly like you and your BF are sharing a joke about her. Don’t forget to point at her (preferably with a female friend) and laugh. Just make her know you know without even saying anything.

God don’t do that it’s fucking vile, I’m sure all the women concerned are way past this kind of pathetic teenage behaviour. Can only hope that although you’re recommending this action you’re not this wat IRL.

Oh good grief, please don’t do any of the cringe-worthy suggestions on here. Smirking? Drawing yourself all over your boyfriend? As for the pinning her hand to bar thing with a ‘Godfather’ look. The mind boggles. (I can only assume that the last suggestion was a joke, no adult behaves like that surely?)

Just get on with your life. She made a move, he said no. You’ve got a good egg there. What’s with the need for drama?

DH is very attractive (I know I sound like I’m bragging but hear me out). Sometimes women take a liking to him, he’s not interested. I trust him implicitly, it’s just not a big deal.

Please don’t make a show of yourself by doing any of the, quite frankly ridiculous and juvenile suggestions. Simply enjoy your relationship, know that your BF handled it, this women isn’t in with a chance and that’s that. No need for any drama.

*draping not drawing. (But don’t draw on him either).

Please don't take Cawfee's advice. If you react, then you are playing straight into her hands. She will think she's in with a chance otherwise you wouldn't be acting so desperate. Remember the Pussy Cat Dolls...….
I know you like me
I know you do
That's why whenever I come around
She's all over you.

Just act cool and don't give her the satisfaction of knowing she has wound you up.

@HyenaHappy I feel your pain - I usually don't let it bother me, not sure why I did this time! Just gonna leave it now, not worth the stress, drama or the time

If you react to her at all you are giving her power she should not possess. Indifference is the way to go and your DP handled it beautifully. Calling her 'mate' really made his lack of interest perfectly clear.

Glad to see you are less angry now OP. Definitely best to leave it.

Are they friends anyway? Wondering why she has his number?

So much for the sisterhood, some women need to take a long hard look at themselves before sending flirty texts, or making suggestions to guys already partnered up

You could try and have some empathy for her and be thankful you have what should be an ordinary boyfriend.
I don’t mean that in a harsh way, but clearly she isn’t in a good place in life and people do destructive things when they’re deeply unhappy.
Or she could just be a bitch, but I would er on empathy personally

I think nearly all of the suggestions made are jokes by the way. The godfather one is brilliant though..

Just ignore her. Don't treat her any differently to how you normally would. She's been rejected, your boyfriend doesn't give a damn about her, leave it at that.

Just because she's seen you in the pub with him Doesn't mean she knows you're his girlfriend. Ex barmaid here and there are so many customers we can't possibly keep tabs on people as much as they think we do. You may have been a mate, his sister, a cousin, could've broken up. She asked him out, he said no... she hasn't done anything wrong.

@Cawfee wtf, how embarrassing. People who do 'the look' or try to pin someone's arm look ridiculous and would be swiftly kicked out and barred in my pub. Never try and threaten someone at their place of work.

LemonysSnicket pretty sure that was a joke.

Some very immature suggestions on here. Your BF handled it well.. that's all that matters tbh.

How did she get his number?

Let it go - he’s answered her. Please don’t follow some of the crazy advice on here

Apparently some ppl posting on mn are 12

He handled it, you’re happy, everyone’s moved on. Cool