Kissing?

[StIncognita]

name-changing for this because it feels really personal..

Does anyone elses dp not like kissing? He's ok with doing the deed, fine with my mouth in other places, and fine with putting his mouth in other places, but he never wants to kiss.

I clean my teeth every day, nurse, and use mouth wash and honestly, honestly my breath doesn't smell. I can't help feeling a bit used after sex - it just doesnt really feel intimate without kissing.

Did he used to kiss you?

What do you mean, you "nurse" your mouth?!

No no, it was a lame attempt to be funny, as in 'really, I do wash everyday, matron'

Well, we have kissed. And he will if he's pushed, but only for a few seconds. But come to think of it, no, we've never really had any big time snogging.

Oh sorry (didn't get the humour )

Have you told him you'd like a good old snog? Snogging becomes something of a lost pleasure for many couples I think.. but if you specifically make time for it (and also flirting, hugging etc at times when it will not lead to sex), it can be be recaptured.

I have kind of mentioned it, but he just seems to fall back into not bothering. I guess he's just not really into it.
It's probably why we've not really been very 'active', shall we say. It's odd, he's very affectionate otherwise, holding hands and all that.

shrugs shoulders

Guess I'm stuck with it.

after a while together sexual relationships can become a bit mechanical - you know each other too well and which 'buttons' to press etc. Though you are not in the first flush of romance it can be recaptured with a bit of effort - I have been 'making an effort' recently as with very young children and breastfeeding etc. I like a bit of personal space after the kids go o bed - but realising that is not how poor dh feels - I have consciously gone to snog him etc. and it has been apreciated - we have tried to do things together without the children as well in order to feel like partners instead of parents hth

Maybe he gets a bit chlostrophobic kissing...? I do!
My dh has been offended in the past by me pulling away from a kiss, but for me it can be really too much, like i cant breathe. I've always been like this, so maybe it's something similar for him?

wow bellarosa, I get like that too- always thought it was just me though! lol

have you tried just sneaking the odd kiss in here and there, not in a "let's have sex" way but just in a "i like you" kind of a way?

Me too - had a conversation with DH only this morning! I like a good old snog - he wouldn't be sad if we never snogged again, however, seeing as it's not a lot to ask on his part when you think what I do for him, if you know what I mean.

But then I think, I don't want him to be forced to do it, I want him to WANT to, so we just end up not doing it.

Bloody husbands eh?!?!

maybe he's afraid his breath is stinky?

Ditto with Bellasosa.

I'm with HairyMcLary and Bellarosa. I really don't like kissing, it's just so .....salivaish. It's not because I don't love hubby, I just REALLY don't like the kissing part.

'fraid I'm another one who just doesn't like kissing. Never have. Snogging just doesn't do anything for me. Also, because I never liked it, I never practiced, so I'm sure I'm no good at it as well - maybe your dh has some of the same feelings?

mine can take it or leave it

I can feel my lips pursing like an old maid with lines around the lips from chronic under use. Shame.

awww suzy

are you going to slip me the tongue and all ?

actually, it is pretty much his only fault and when he does kiss me it's the icing on the cake

fortunately, my boyfriend JD is happy to spend hours on end with moist, pliable lips and an undulating tongue. In my dreams

you'd end up with nasty moustache rash on your face after kissing JD though

I'm a much safer bet

Thats a real shame, kissing is so nice!

You need to talk to him and just ask directly 'why' he doesnt like doing it!

Don't like french kissing. Shame really as DH does.

Unfortunately, for me, tongues and toes have a real ewwwww factor.

Just can't be helped.