Can someone please help me before i pay a solicitor a small fortune. I have been separated from my sons father for over 10 years, we were never married but he has parental responsibility.
He was and still is a very controlling and manipulative person.
Over the years the access arrangements, which were every weekend have chopped and changed and dwindled down to every other weekend because "he needed a life" and the arrangements have only ever been to suit his lifestyle and job. I have actually lost a job in the past because of these changes.
I am happy with the current arrangements apart from a few certain aspects and I need someone to advise me as to what i can and cant do about it.
Firstly, the every other weekend 'life' debacle is now his wife and i am forbidden from meeting her, dropping or collecting my son from their home, speak to her etc, I have on numerous occasions offered to have them over for tea to show a common bond to my son (who is now 13) and to meet my partner etc but it is always met with hostility. I have asked why and am always told she is non of my business and doesn't want to meet me. i have emphasised the fact that I have a right to know the person who is in the company of my child and I am told, in no uncertain terms to keep my nose out of his business.
Secondly, and the title of my thread, i have made my feeling very clear to my sons father about not wanting our son to have a shaved head haircut. for a start is it against school regulations and also because i think he looks like a thug and don't like it. he has beautiful blonde hair and although my barber uses clippers around the sides, i ask for it to remain semi long on the top and brushed to one side. very neat. not like the bald buzz cut his father insists on taking him for. i have mentioned this on several occasions to him when he has returned our son and i have had an apology once and was told it wouldn't happen again. It has happened again this weekend.
I am at a loss as to how i can stop this from happening. My son is afraid of saying no to his dad and i don't want to put him in a position where he has to.
Can anyone give me some advice..... im pretty desperate
Thank you in advance