Why do people do this?

[Newbabies15]

When I was pregnant with my twins people were like - omg twins. How will you cope! Your body will break. Etc. I survived. When they were newborns people were like omg twin newborns - will be the shock of your lives etc. We survived. Yes it was a shock but so what. It didn’t help us one bit that people “warned” us that it was going to be a shock. It just made me anxious. Now we survived the newborn phase and the twins are 5 months - we now get - wait until they are walking, THEN you won’t know what’s hit you. 🙄
People ask how I’m coping and I’m like - we’re fine lol 🤷🏻‍♀️ we are. Yes, life has changed but we wouldn’t change it for the world. It’s almost like people want you to have a problem!

I think it's just conversation when people have literally nothing by else to say to you they say something inane. It sounds like a bit of light ribbing at worst, they don't wish you to struggle.

I've found this, although I don't have twins so I can imagine it's worse for you.
First it was 'oh you'll never leave the house again' you'll never sleep' or 'youll have no freedom'
I didn't experience any of that, and it stopped when he was about 18 months,then Dd came along and it started all over again

I do the wide eyed sarcastic face look. Seems they don't know what to do with that.

Try not to listen to them. I'm sure your doing a fab job and making it look easy that's why they want to say something negative

It is just conversation. Change subject to the weather if u prefer. Others without twins get 'dont leave it too long to have another' or 'will he be an only child' or 'you wanted one of each' and not forgetting ' you are going back to work?' And "you're still not back at work?".

Most people really don't care much. I mean that kindly, but I often find myself making innane comments like "what an active baby, you'll have your hands full when it starts walking" or "gosh! Twins!" because I'm really not very interested in babies but said babies' parents generally expect some form of conversation about babies. Just say "yes, it can be tough but we muddle our way through and it's fun" and change the subject. There will be relief all round.

People do this with single babies too. I remember after having dd1 I was brought a cup of tea in the hospital and the midwife said “enjoy that, it’s the last cup of tea you’ll have for around five years” what a thing to say to a new parent!

Most people are fundamentally kind and mean well, I am sure most of these remarks are off the cuff and not meant with malice, annoying yes but take it with a pinch of salt, sounds like you’re doing just fine

I think it’s just good meaning conversation tbh. When I was pregnant with my second son, I got a lot of ‘oh my, two boys, just you wait, you won’t know what hit you’ etc

Pay no heed.

It would make much more sense to me to say something like “oh your babies are beautiful!” and “things must be so busy, you’re doing such an awesome job!”

I know exactly what you mean OP.
I bumped into an acquaintance I hadn’t seen for a while and she congratulated me on my bump. When I told her it was twins she let out an involuntary ‘Oh no!’

I got that a few times.

I think it’s more sympathy and a reflection of how the person would feel about it than anything else I am sure it isn’t meant to worry you. For the first 3 months of my babies life I often thought about how I wouldn’t have coped if I had twins and it made me think about the women I know who do have twins and how fantastic they must be doing :) I think it’s just a natural reaction to hearing about twins

As someone who also has twins, yes you're going to get all these lines. To be honest in time it'll all just blow over your head. Was it just me or did you feel like your twins were famous when born? I was stopped constantly if I left the house by everyone. I'd even be trying to pay in the shop and would have people surround me wanting to ask me questions and coo over them. In time I got used to it but it was irritating. However, it's just people making small talk. Like others have said, I sometimes find myself saying things about kids that I wouldn't even want to say just because I'm also not that interested but it seems like the default thing to say when you're chatting to a parent.

Ah you're reading too much into it, OP.
It's small talk.
Chewing the fat.
Shootin' the breeze.
Whatever you want to call it. Just people, trying to be nice and doing no harm.

But yes, wait until they're walking!
It's got nothing to do with them being twins, but once little ones start walking, you start running. It doesn't last though. None of it lasts long enough. As tough as raising kids is, oh goodness, it's all too fleeting and beautiful.
Congrats on your 5 month old twins!

Oh, also, twins are so much easier than a singleton when they’re toddlers as they always have a playmate and don’t need you quite as intensely.

Makes up for the relentlessness of that first year and is unbelievably cute

No help whatsoever but it never stops. Now I get - wait till she's a teenager - wait till she's at Uni! It is very bizarre!