So DP goes to a works colleagues leaving meal/party a couple of Saturdays ago (were both early forties). Plan is for me to collect her at the end of the evening so she can drink, it's about a 15min drive from where we live. Following discussions before she leaves, I'm under the impression that the party will be finishing at 11pm, and ask her to text me near the time to confirm. She leaves at 7pm, I get a couple of texts at 9pm saying she's having fun. then nothing until 11:45pm.
I texed at 10:30pm asking if she wanted to leave at 11pm. At 11pm I text to say ok i'm on my way, I know this type of thing will overrun, so not too worried as yet. I arrive around 11:15pm and text to say waiting outside. and get no reply. I'm not sure which house in the road the party is at, she just told me the road name. 11:30pm still no reply, So by this time I'm a little annoyed she's not texted or called to let me know when I'm supposed to pick her up, and I text to say i'm heading back home, please let me know when you want collecting. I can see she's not read the text's i've sent but has received them.
I go home and shower, she's texted while i'm in shower. saying Sorry. then a text a couple of mins later saying she'll get a taxi.
I had promised to pick her up and had every intention to still do so, and her text messages were so short and abrupt, most unlike her that started me worrying. So now i'm under the impression that she will be calling a taxi company and getting picked up asap. I text to say don't get a taxi, i'll be there in 15mins, jump in car drive back to the street and text to say i'm there. No text back. So by now i'm hoping she's not already got a taxi, and I can't just sit and keep texting, so I call her - no answer, and try again, before she answers the second time by now it's 12:15am. She answers, as though she's done nothing wrong, I tell her i'm waiting outside, she says she's not ready to leave yet. I say i thought you were going to get a taxi and i did not want us to waste money getting one. She says she'll be out soon, i wait about 10mins and she appears walking down road towards me.
I'm so cross with her actions, I say to her I don't want to talk (she was drunk so I knew it would be pointless)
a few days later I try to explain how i felt, that she had not bothered to let me know when to pick her up, and that she did not even call or text me for almost 3 hours. She does not understand why i'm so upset and just says sorry.
It's not the first time it's happened, (Christmas work party at a hotel and another occasion, all in the past 7 months) I think every time she's actually been out on her own she's not bothered to stay in touch or call me to confirm pickup time, which is why I feel that once she's drunk she forgets about me. She said previously it's rude to call me when she goes out with her work colleagues so i have to text. And the reason she said she could not reply to my texts was because her phone was in her handbag under the table and it would be rude to use the phone while at table with everyone, apparently no one else there would dream of looking at their phones during this time. I also found out meal finished at 11pm, but they went away from table so she still had no access to the phone then either. So i was feeling a little unloved, well that's how I was feeling until today when I see that she's be-friended a younger single guy on facebook who was at this meal/party 2 weeks ago, who lives in the same town she works in and the party was in. My head is spinning, was she just seeing this guy after the party, was she at the party?
We've been together seriously for almost a year, i'd known her for a couple of years before that, and she's never friended any other males on facebook in that time, she has other male friends on there but not since we met. This guy at party was son of person who was leaving the company, i can tell by his surname.
I asked who he was this morning via text and she replied you've nothing to worry about. when i said i was worried she just replied sorry.
What do I do ? things have not been great since that party, I texted her this morning to say i think it best if i stay in hotel tonight. I feel so hurt that she does not care how I feel and that she does not understand why i'd be upset. I wanted to talk to her last night, but when I got back home from playing football in the evening she'd drunk a bottle of wine and I new talking again would be useless. Why would she need to drink a bottle of wine in a few hours? again i don't understand.