Confused- what should I do now ?

[Lbdflowers]

So I’ve met a really great guy and I’m not good at this. I tend to overthink and feel like I’ve really screwed up.
I find it really hard to admit my feelings but I guess I bitthe bullet and was honest and said that I do really like him - he said he does like me too but that I need to relax and not be too intense .... I now realise that maybe I’ve had no luck is because I’m too intense. I don’t mean to be and didn’t realise I was. I don’t know what to do now or if it’s too late. I’ve screwed up haven’t I ?

What makes you think you have screwed up? If he just said to be relaxed and not too intense how was this said to you?

Going forward you need to fill your life with other stuff, hobbies, friends, work, family and interests, maybe take up studying or undertake volunteering. Anything that keeps you busy and distracted. It will leave you less time to analyse and less motivated to make someone your entire source of company and validation.

I just feel like I have. He’s honestly the nicest guy I’ve met and he treats me with respect and I guess it’s because I’m not used to that. I’m used to being strung along and getting a few mo tha down the line and being told your not good enough for me. And he said it in a really polite way that I just need to relax and chill because it can freak him out.

I do other things and have hobbies I guess I just wanted to know if things are going to go somewhere but went about it there wrong way

If you've become used to having toxic relationships and aren't really sure what to expect from this one or how to be, you might find doing the Freedom Programme helpful. Www.freedomprogramme.co.uk

I think it would give you confidence that the men you're attracted to aren't going to repeat the previous patterns, and then you'd find it easier to relax. It might rebuild your self esteem a bit too after the treatment you've had.