Right to cut a long story short me and my other half are currently in a long distance relationship and we have an 18 month old together and have been together 4 and a half years although We’ve been on and off for a while due to my OH constantly lying to me about little things and breaking promises, but he had said he would change so we could be a family and move in together. I wanted to believe him so I gave him another chance, but then yesterday after coming down to visit the day before he was ignoring all of my messages and not replying to any. Then when I called him out on it today he said I was always going psycho and having a go at him for no reason. It was at this point I realised he had gone out the night before and didn’t even have the decency to just text and say I’m on a night out will speak later, instead he just flat out ignored me. I asked him several times had he gone out and he ignored the question until finally he said, yeah I went to the pub but I didn’t say anything because I knew you’d kick off. Now, I did Kick off but not because he went out, but because when I have ever asked him to go to the pub with me he has flat out refused and told me he hated pubs, even though I prefer them to horrible nightclubs. Yet when his friends ask it’s a different story. That was what made me mad the most, is that he won’t ever go out with me, but will his mates. As well as keeping it a secret instead of being honest! Am I right to be annoyed? He’s lied to me so much to me over the last 2 years since I fell pregnant and he’s promised every time that he will change yet hasn’t.
I have ended it with him at the minute as I am sick of being taken for a mug, it’s like he doesn’t take the relationship seriously and doesn’t want to commit to anything or take responsibility. It’s like he wants to see his LO but not have the added responsibility of caring for her 24/7 like I do. Have I been too harsh or am I right to get seriously peed off ?
Ps sorry if any typos, I’m on my phone and I have right sausage fingers 🤦🏻♀️