Is he interested? How can I move it up a level?

[LadyLizziemae]

I met someone at a gig a couple of weeks ago. We chatted for a bit that evening and have chatted every night since on messenger but only for 10 mins or so. It’s him who usually starts the chat but then after 10/15mins he usually disappears - no goodbye, talk tomorrow or anything like that. He lives in a different city 100+ miles away. Tonight he said that if I liked in the future we could video chat.

I don’t know what to make of this. Is he just being polite? I really like him and we have shared some quite personal stuff about our lives with each other but I don’t understand what’s going on. How can I show him how interested I am without scaring him away? How can I take this up a level - or 2 🙂?

Just video chat him! That sounds to me like a pretty good signal he could be interested in you. You'll be able to read signals better over video chat too.

He lives 100+ miles away... Where do you realistically see this going? I don't want to be the voice of doom, but I doubt he'd be seeing you as a long term monogamous prospect, if that's what you're hoping for... (speaking from experience )

How about taking the bull by the horns and asking to meet up. Is there another gig on you could invite him to?

It is a bit odd, if I liked in the future we could video chat. I mean, there's taking it slowly and taking it slowly.

I'm inclined to say he's not that into you. Or has a girlfriend already. But the only way to know is to ask.

The 10 mins of chat and then disappearing made me think he has a gf too. I’m not being goady but how have you shared lots of personal things when you met 2w ago and only message for 10 mins at a time?
Go for the video chat or chat on the phone and see if you think he’s single and then hopefully you can meet up but o agree with the previous poster who said could it really go anywhere living so far?