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Fedupgirlfriend27 · 08/07/2018 22:33

So I've been in my relationship with my partner nearly 3 years.
To say the least we have had our ups and downs. Right from the begining there was alot of insecurities from her point of view telling me which friends I can and can't spend time with and justifying it in her eyes. She is a good girlfriend at time when everything is going smoothly but then she is also very negative and angry when things don't go her way.
I've always been a very head strong and independent lady and I am now at the age of 26.
Sadly I find it very hard to end relationships even though there have been many a warning sign.
In the last two years I have built up alot of resentment inside. I have only been away to London once for two nights with my best friend of Ten years since meeting her. She has been travelling for three months and has been to Berlin with a friend. Recently going back about four months she told me she wanted to go to abroad again for a few days to which I felt myself getting very put out of place for as I am not allowed to have the same desires. So recently we had a heart to heart and it was discussed how unhealthy it is for us not to have friend time. After this conversation she went and booked flights straight away.. okay fair enough. So I have now done the same and booked a holiday with my best friend for a week. She was completely cool with it until I booked it and is now telling me I either have to cancel it and rebook for just a few days like her or we are over and she will never speak to me again. I'm feeling so down over this whole situation and am in a completely messed up place. It's a loose loose situation I can't cancel it without staying in the unhealthy situation but then if I go away I will loose her forever.
Any ideas?

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TigerBubbles · 08/07/2018 22:38

Run. Run far away. And then run away some more.

Seriously though, this is so controlling. If it's been like this for 3 years and you've spoken about it then things are never going to change. This will only get worse until you have no one left and then you'll feel like you have to depend on her. Please get out while you can

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