I can’t let go

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Hi, I posted on here recently about how I’m struggling to let go of my ex and it is now consuming me.

I have tried no contact but we have kids, I have tried being matter of fact about them with no other conversation and it always ends up with him joking and then we have a conversation.

I have filed for divorce and he is on the charm offensive massively asking me to go home. I have days where I’m strong and feel in control but in other days I feel weak and miss him desperately.

He isn’t good for me, I know that but I’m still so attracted to him ( shallow I know) that I just feel helpless.

He is promising me the world and I know that’s inevitable as he doesn’t want to divorce but so much has gone on in our time apart that I know they’d be no way back.

How on earth can I detach from him?He is on my mind constantly and it’s driving me mad. I can’t stand the thought of him with someone else but know we can’t be together. It’s ridiculous. I miss so much about him but know I deserve better.

How can I move on? I just want to feel that when I look at him, I just see the kids dad and have no feelings whatsoever.

Have you thought about counselling?

I am in a very similar position, makes me so sad, hugs x

I'm in the exact same position. I ended the relationship because of emotional abuse along with a few other reasons. It wasn't the first time we had split for same reasons so he has had chances to change things but hasn't. It's been 3 weeks now and I'm so strong some days then others I am so scared of the unknown and being by myself. I feel like I'm breaking my own heart and the easy option would be to just let him back but I know it will be the same. He keeps begging and it's hard as I do love him in ways and I find him attractive too.

I think what I'm trying to do is take it one day at a time and not expect too much from myself. Each day is a step towards it being easier one day. Write a list of all the reasons it didn't work.x

I feel exactly the same, counsling might help x