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twinky06 · 08/07/2018 15:41

I've been with the same person for 10+ years but it hasn't be working. I am a very loyal person and despite being unhappy for years, I've stuck by my husband and kept working at things.

He's hurt me massively, lying, cheating and treating me like his life and happiness is worth more than mine. I know I deserve better.

My question is... how do you get over someone who has been such a huge part of your life for so long? He has been a crap husband but he's always been there in a way. I'm so scared about letting go of someone I've loved so much and not having them in my life anymore.

As pathetic as it sounds, I still love this guy. The feelings are strong and before he has won me over because I couldn't ignore my feelings. However I know, if I keep letting him he will continue to treat me badly.

I need some way of breaking the cycle and showing that he doesn't have a hold over me... yet continue to live and sleep next to him whilst we arrange the sale of our home.

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Lovetheocean18 · 09/07/2018 22:47

Sounds like you should have left him years ago.
You don't love him, you're just scared and accustomed to him. Or maybe you do but in a very different way than you think... like someone who's just been a part of your life for a long time (too long).
Kick him out of the bedroom tomorrow. Or just leave and stay with friends/family or get your own place! And start your own life. In a few months you'll be wondering why you stayed with him for so long.

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